No SEX

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by Vixens, Jun 26, 2011.

  1. Vixens

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    As a 22 yr old, I would say im attractive (no pics of me have been posted yet) I am a mother of 2 and one on the way (all boys) and have a extremely high sex drive... BUT I GET NO SEX... I currently have a partner he is 28 whos sex drive is extremely low, and is not willing to compromise. When we 1st got together things of course were fresh and new, but now I do not have sex at all im lucky if I get sex once a week.. Could it be because im pregnant? This is a different person than my 2 yr olds father however the same thing happend with him sex was okay then gradually started dying down. However, he was cheating, but the person im with now I just do not see him as the cheating type... He is always working, he has 2 jobs on the weekends starting Thursday- Sunday he manages 2 night clubs in our location and also is in charge of both clubs security not only management duties. and Monday - Friday he works his day job from 5 am - 5 or 6 pm at the latest... earlies would be 2 or 3.....

    I def. try to be understanding of course he would be tired but I have told him that you have to have balance between home life and work... I mean what man does not enjoy waking up at night to a blow job or sex.. kissing and touching but he says hes tired and all I want to do is sex at night ( for one im not comfy with my body prego or not thats just when im most into it, but i do have sex during the day night is just my perfrence) I try to wake him to sex but he sleeps through it dead sleep, heavy sleeper, and again his excuse is I want to have sex when I no he has to be to work at 5 am... really guys is it me or is he correct????

    I can lay next to him an naked and just rub on myself and in less than 2 miins he has not looked my way and is dead sleep... so I will get up and sleep on the sofa... he will get upset and wake and ask where im going... like really come on.

    I am not the type to cheat so if someone does not want to have sex I just try to deal with it. I was with my 2 yrs old father for most of my life.. and recent relationship of 4 yrs b4 I got with the person im on and off with now and we barely had sex again reason being end result he was cheating.. I am not the type of person to sit down and finger my self I absoultly hate that!!!!! I just grosses me out the thought of fingering myself or using a dildo... they are no help!!!!!! so I do not play with my self in that aspect. I guess I just go horny..

    BUT AGAIN EVERYONE I AM ONLY 22!!!! and im in s fix in between relationships I met my sexual soul mate hes the same age as i am just an all around awesome guy and sex with him is the world... THE BEST IVE EVER HAD .. AND I AM THAT TO HIM.... we can experiment with each other we can sex for hours... quickies during the day.. just oral pleasing during the day no attachements.. both of our sex drives are high we are just compatible and have sex the bar high for others.. when me and the person im with now break up or hes not with anyone we always hook up.... thing is again im pregnant now so I cant sex my compatible mate its killing me but even more so killing me that In my heart I do not want to sex him I want to sex the person Im with now bc there is an emotional connection there!!! I love this person so much... I just sit and cry I do not know what else to do to get him to sex me the way I want and a compromise to how much I want!!!!!!


    HELP!!!! WHAT DO YOU THINK.. DO YOU THINK AFTER I HAVE THE BABY I SHOULD JUST GO BACK TO SEXING MY SEX MATE THE PERSON THAT I AM COMPATIBLE WITH... BUT IS SEX REALLY WORTH IT CONSIDERING ITS NOT JUST MY LIFE IM EFFECTING I ALSO HAVE CHILDREN 2 AND ONE ON THE WAY.. SO IS IT OKAY TO PLAY SEX GAMES AND LEAVE A HOME??? OR SO I JUST PUT MY NEEDS ASIDE TO BE WITH MY UNBORN CHILDS FATHER WHO DOES NOT SEX ME AT ALL ?????

    WHAT CAN I DO !!!!!
     
  2. Kermit

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    Spike his drink with Viagra
     
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    Is sex really worth it? Not sure. If it means arguing over it with your partner in front of your kids (maybe not outright arguing about SEX but frustration because of it) then no it's not.

    Maybe sex shouldn't be your priority right now anyway. You're getting yourself all worked up over this which I'm not saying is affecting your baby but it could.

    To be completely honest I had a hard time reading and understanding a lot of what you said. Are you in a relationship with someone else on the side who is more compatible sexually?

    You two obviously had sex at one point. You didn't get pregnant for nothing. Maybe a break would be good. You have other children to put your time and effort into.
     
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    lol... I will def. try that all advice is taken seirously lol
     
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    Hey, thanks for you post.. umm im with the person im pregnant by been with him for 2 yrs now... the person i am sexually compatible with hes just a friend... in my split from my 4 yr relationship going into the relationship i am in now the person i am compatible with sexually was inbetween just as a sex buddy nothing more... but my concern is should i be getting my needs met.. im just frustrated at not having sex pd. like what else can I do I def try to focus my attention else where like on my children and work but its like im not getting sex i think about it constantly.. sex addict maybe?
     
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    Well as a temp fix while you sort things, if penetrating yourself grosses you out (not sure why) you can use a bullet or an egg for external stimulation inside your panties (hands free masturbation lol) just pure sensation
     
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    Still a bit foggy.

    You had a sexual soulmate, but ended up with a different guy who is the father of your unborn?

    Why didn't you stay with your sexual soulmate?

    What keeps you with the father besides the fact that he's the father?

    The overworked thing can be a legit libido killer.

    Doubt you're a sex adidct for just getting horny from having no orgams.

    Thats just biology.

    Can't speak for all men, but I don't think women lose their sex appeal when pregnant.
     
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    I think the #1 problem is that he works all the time. I mean a 12 hr day starting at 5am then working the nights must suck it right out of him. But, he has to masterbate every now and then, you dont just sleep thru feeling horny all the time especially for a man. I can see that sometimes he can ignore you and sleep wins, but all the time? There may something else... Maybe instead of just rubbing yourself on him, just grab his dick and start suckin.. forreal. Or, try something before he falls asleep. Maybe hes not attracted to you being pregs (same for me). Btw how far are you?

    Talk about it with him. Just be forward about it and say why aren't you fucking me.
     
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    I personally don't quite by the too tired. When I was 28, I was managing one restaurant working 60 hrs a week, shift manager at another a couple of nights a week, fixing cars and doing some remodeling, and still fucked like a rabbit. Maybe all the kids make him nervous, 3rd kid on the way at 22, that might mess with my mind a bit. I was 32 with our first and almost 34 with the second and that was early enough for us. I personally thought my wife was sexy when she was pregnant, but it's a problem for a lot of guys.
     
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    i would talk about it with him and see what you hear
     
  11. Kermit

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    *envies your hours* :(
     
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    *snipped* Misread. Never mind.
     
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    If you haven't tried this yet, talk to him about your sexual desires - communication is the key element. My wife and I have different timetables of sexual desire, so we plan a regular "date" when we will devote a predetermined amount of time to giving and receiving pleasure. This is a form of compromise that can keep both partners happy. I think statistics will show that if one partner is neglected, it's just a matter of time before he/she will seek satisfaction elsewhere - it's not rocket science, and he should know this.
     
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    This might be the wrong thing to say...but maybe you are just a little too obsessed with sex? Three kids by 22 is kind of a lot...I'm 22 myself and having even one is out of the question. You're pregnant with your third child...I would think this would make you fairly nervous...but your biggest concern seems to be getting more sex. And yes, I understand that your hormones are probably all over the place but something just seems off...you're sexually compatible with one guy but having a baby with another who you don't feel you are sexually compatible with but he seems to be taking care of you and your other kids...

    I dunno, very, very strange... >.> Again, this probably isn't the popular thing to say and maybe it's "inappropriate" but I think you should cool it a little. You may have kids and you may be 22 but you, in my opinion, are still behaving a little immature...talk it out with him.
     
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    ... I could agree
     
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    I'm thinking the same. We have 2 kids 14 months apart, they're 4 and 5. When we're having sexual issues of one of us wanting more than the other it's because life with these 2 kids leaves no energy for eachother.

    Sex has 2 components, physical and emotional. You can take care of the physical yourself. Maybe you'd find the emotional fulfillment easier to get from family then.