no sex please

Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by suzee, Jun 1, 2008.

  1. suzee

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    after 15 years alone my mother of 64 me a wonderful man whos called phillip,who is 12 years younger that her .They get on in almost every way , sexually mum has always been very warm and giving.And was looking forward to now been able to enjoy this side of a relationship with the man the adored. He said he loved good hearty sex and had a good sex drive and at the begining of the relationship things sexually couldn't of been better.In fact he would wear mum out wanting it 3 times a night although mum did expect it was a bit of a put on on his part. Mum would of been happier at once a week. With in the next couple of years there sex life has dwindled to the point were there is none. When ever mum tries to instigate anything or offers to do something for him he flatly refuses and pushes her away leaving her feeling cold and unloved. He tells her to take up jogging instead and now said he prefers a nice meal instead of sex.he also doesent like kissing or any kind of cuddling. The other part of the problem is his terrible flirting hes totally outrageous he flirts in front of mum with anyone up to the age of 40 whos attractive , totally embarrassing her mum says he comes alive when flirting he does it with the neighbors, work colleagues, friends, ect. Even the waitresses when they have a meal, he also seems to have a problem about growing old and continuously harps on about how wonderful youth is which leaves mum feeling flat, old, and ugly incomparison to the people hes flirting with, especially with been 12 years older than him, mum says she thinks he would have sex with his conquests and as hes refusing her you can imagine how she feels. when she tries to talk to him he says its in her head, and other times he says he going through the male menopause.In every other way they are happy and he does say he loves her and would never leave her but says if she has an affair he would go. They have just bought a house together financially there about the same, so hes not with her for money, please help her know what to do. She doesn't want a loveless relationship ...
     
  2. Dreama

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    Just a thought: Why is your mother not posting herself?
     
  3. loveit247

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    Probably because a woman of 64 would not want to come onto a sexual forum.

    I think you should sit your mother down and have a serious conversation about whether she wants to continue in a affectionless relationship. Ask her is this is how she wants to spend the rest of her life. If she says no, you could suggest they see a counciler.