My wife and were recently discussing why I no longer get those "blue balls" feelings when I get very aroused but sexual activity is delayed. I certainly got them when I was younger, in our early years of sex. However, though she still readily arouses me and gets me hard, I no longer get that "blue balls" feeling. I can be aroused for hours before we do anything, but now it is actually more of a comfortable, pleasant feeling. An example my help to explain things. One morning Bunnie had to go out for the morning while I was home on vacation. year vacation. She was looking extra pretty to me, and she "teased" me by lifting her skirt and flashing me as she went towards the door. This got me excited, and I displayed my erection for her to see. She then felt bad - she came over stroked it a little and then bent over and kissed it, while sadly saying "I 'd LOVE to give you some attention, but I really have to go!" Back in my early twenties there is no way she could have left me in that state without me getting that pent up pain very quickly. However, now I told her no problem, I will be fine. I never got completely soft that morning, and still stayed aroused, but I felt very comfortable. I got a few tasks done and even watched some of our home sex videos to keep the mood going. Of course, When Bunnie returned at noon she came running in the house looking for me, and once she saw I was still aroused we essentially had each other for lunch. She admits that she is slightly concerned - she did enjoy seeing me get, in her words, "uncontrollably horny" (she never deliberately wanted to put me in that state, and and enjoyed however I chose to "release" those feelings with her). We discussed why this no longer happens, and narrowed it down to three potential reasons: 1) I'm old! Now that I am 50, my sexual interest and activity is not what it was due to natural body changes. 2) I'm ill. Perhaps there is some underlying condition or infection that is "blunting" this from occurring. 3) I'm totally satisfied and satiated. Since I know I can get relieved with Bunnie whenever I want, however I want, my body has gotten used to this, and does not go into "panic" mode when I get aroused, since it knows the situation will be taken care of. I lean towards #3, with a little bit of #1 just due to natural aging. I am fairly sure it is not #2, since from all signs and my annual physical I am in very good shape for my age and my hormone levels are still in the normal range. I just feel that knowing I have a wife who is happy to please me at the drop of a hat, and in addition feels bad when other conflict interfere and therefore goes the extra mile to make things up to me, has enabled me to weather, adjust to, and even enjoy those prolonged arousal periods when they occur. So I am curious how others might feel about this topic - does my view make sense? Or might there be other reasons we have not thought of?