No DILDO's for women in relationships

Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by Donrite, Jan 4, 2008.

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No DILDO's for women in relationships

Poll closed Jan 8, 2008.
  1. Women do you disagree

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  2. Women do you agree

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  3. men do you agree

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  4. men do you disagree

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  1. Donrite

    Donrite New Member

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    Now me personally think a women is suppose to crave their man always. I do know we work, we get tired, and for some can't get it up. (ETC). I also know that men are view differently than women. So my real question is. If women use dildo's for gratafacation while in a relationship, can your man use a sex doll? I mean it's the same consept right. What do you think. Let me know

    DONRITE.
     
  2. Dreama

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    My man is free to use any sex toy he wishes, as long as it's just a sex toy. It's his business alone. Just like what I use for my own masturbatory purposes is my own business. Some people have higher sexual needs than others, and so they work it out by themselves, and some just like a little solo time.
     
  3. Bluesy

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    Actually, an artificial pussy is the boy toy equivalent of a dildo/vibe ;) And for the record, I would looooooooove to use a fleshlight/head honcho/etc. on a guy! Or catch him in the act...ohhhhh, now my mind is tripping down all sorts of libido-inspiring lanes :dgrin

    There are many worlds of erotic pleasure to be explored by introducing toys into the bedroom...every couple should have a "pleasure chest" :brow

    ETA: Btw, do you masturbate? You use your hand because it's convenient and it works well, right? Well, how does a woman masturbate vaginally? A dildo/vibe is essential.
     
  4. Rose

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    "Toys" are learning devices. Period.

    Just as a child learns his surrounding world by interacting with toys and imagination; so we, as men and women, learn our own world by experimenting and experiencing the senses through 'toys'. I strongly believe that a woman will never know how to convey to her partner what she desires, unless she learns (in the comfort of her own bedroom ALONE!!! --- ) unless she learns to lose herself with the numerous devices out there for her to enjoy.

    Should you refuse your woman this pleasure, you are, in essence, refusing yourself the pleasure of knowing what it is to be a real man.

    REAL men aren't afraid - they desire to learn and grow.

    REAL women will learn and grow - - with or without you.

    It's your choice.
     
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    So far... it's DILDO'S - yes: 3
    DILDO'S - no: 1
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    :lol I suppose it's a safe assumption that it's:

    Dreama, Bluesy, Rose: 'YES, USE A DILDO'

    Donrite: 'NO WAY'

    Hmmmm - 3 of the most sexually 'in-touch' women on the Forums. Mr. Donrite, perhaps you may want to rethink your theory? :shrug You wanna use a sex doll? No problem with us :)
     
  6. Dreama

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    LOL, Rose. And learning about yourself and which things make you feel good is an essential part of life and of any relationship. Denying anyone that right is almost criminal!
     
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    I hate to be suspicious, but I'm thinking our Mr.Donrite can't be the age he claims to be. I mean, how can a man his age have such strange notions? ???
     
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    This is fucked...

    ...up. The question was 'no dildo for women in relationship' and you wanna know if a man can use toys?

    Find an English speaking friend in 'Chicagoland' and they will help you say what you mean.

    I have no idea what I just voted for. Or against.

    Women without toys is like a garage without tools.
     
  9. FlirtyChick

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    Women must have toys! My man is all in favor of toys, because they put me in touch with my sexuality, and he gets to watch. Any man who is intimitated by toys needs to get one of his own and go for it. Yes, I am semi-inebriated, but hell. How many years can you go missionary night after night before you have to get some real thrills?

    Sorry, SadChick is buzzin, and I cannot wait to hit the toys!
     
  10. Donrite

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    very well put you all.
    just sh?t and gigles
    if you read about me you know what i'm going through.
    I needed a smile.
    thanks gals.
    p.s
    Eventhough this was a forereal thread which was my opinion.
     
  11. cbrmale

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    I think sex toys can be good as a masturbatory aid (except vibrators), and I think they could be fun for sex games and variety. Having said that, none of the women I've had relationships were into any sex toys. Masturbation was obviously part of their pasts, but finger stimulation and not dildos. To me, masturbation (no matter how it's done) helps womens to learn their sexual response, and masturbatory partners were generally more orgasmic. But as to the time I was in various relationships, it was partner sex only (unless their masturbation was very private and very well hidden).

    For sex games, it was and continues to be two-person sex games such as a bit of light bondage, some inventive games, and a beautiful lady of my past who liked to dress up and show off lovely lingerie and so on.

    Is my experience unusual, or is this the way things tend to be in relationships? Or maybe it's me and my rampant libido, I don't know.
     
  12. Puss_in_boots

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    Some men can be very uncomfortable with the idea of their woman using a dildo or any other type of sex toy. My SO used to be one of them. He just didn't like the idea of anything "replacing" him because there was always the possibility of me liking it better. It took me a while to explain that dildos and vibes and other sex toys for women are nothing but masturbatory aides and are not meant to replace intimate skin-on-skin contact between lovers. I said they serve the same purpose for women that looking at porn serves for men, and that finally hit home for him.

    Some women really don't like their men to masturbate to porn because they feel like they've been "replaced," and likewise some men don't like their women masturbating with sex toys because they get that same feeling of being replaced.

    In either case, unless the use becomes obsessive and excessive, then there's really nothing to worry about.

    As for your question, both partners should be "allowed" to use whatever masturbatory aides they feel are necessary.
     
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    Ah - Puss! Your above comment threw light into another aspect of using toys, etc., for masturbation.

    If one is masturbating (regardless of 'how'), to the extent that it becomes a way of relieving sexual tension without having to work at it via romance, tenderness, passion... all those interactive skills... then it may be time to 'worry'. If this becomes the case, it's evident that there is a much deeper relationship problem that needs to be identified. It's most likely not the fault of the masturbation, but when 2 people refrain from physical contact, it's going to exasperate the situation.
     
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    Would someone...

    ...please acknowledge that this poll and the questions are not in harmony with one another? It's starting to bug me.


    :lol
     
  15. BassDude

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    'Xactly...sometimes it's not so much WHAT you do as it is WITH WHAT ATTITUDE OR INTENTION you do it. If you are consistently hitting the porn or vibe INSTEAD OF your partner, then that suggests there may be some relationship issues to try to resolve first. If you're hitting the porn/vibe in addition to your partner, I can't see any problem at all with that. The more you learn about yourself and what you like, the easier it is to communicate that to your partner...and that's definitely a good thing.

    I do encourage my partner to play with her toys any time she feels like it, whether it's with me (I love to watch!) or alone (I get turned on knowing she's upstairs buzzin' away by herself!). It's all good in my opinion. :cool

    Now, if she told me "I like the Rabbit a lot better than you", I'd feel a little hurt. (And it probably wouldn't result in her continuing to get new and interesting toys as gifts!) I'm sure if I told her "I like porn a lot better than you", she'd feel hurt too. Either of those would qualify as using porn/vibe as a substitute, replacement, or even as an emotional weapon, depending on the circumstance. I just can't see either of us doing that however.

    BD
     
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    If my boyfriend has a problem with me using a dildo, clearly he has some type of self-esteem issue....not confident enough that I won't fall in love with my dildo and run away with it and get married :p
     
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    Well...vibes do what they're supposed to do with minimal maintenance, they don't talk back, they don't leave underwear lying on the floor, they don't leave the toilet seat up, they don't have any needs other than batteries and a bath, and you can get them turned on by pushing their one button. :D Might make the ideal husband. ;)

    Minister: "Brittany, do you take this...er...um...Jenna Jameson Super Stroker to be your lawfully wedded husband?"
    Brittany: "I do!"
    Minister: "Mr. Super Stroker, do you take Brittany to be your lawfully wedded wife?"
    Stroker: "Buzz chucka chucka chucka buzz chucka chucka chucka."
    Minister: "I now pronounce you Mr. and Mrs. Super Stroker".

    Let the honeymoon begin...

    BD
     
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    Agreed. Men who are afraid of dildos need to grow up.
     
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    You, sir, are acknowledged
     
  20. Donrite

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    Guys & gals i'm rethinking this whole thing. I'm vote myself yes to dildo's. yyyyyyyyyyeaaah.