No Blood First Time Sex?!

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  1. Silent22

    Silent22 New Member

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    First of all "Hi" everyone, im new to the board and decided to post my first topic.

    So me and my girl friend been goin out now for 10 months. And I got to thinkin the other day, I was a virgin when we first had sex on our 3 month and she said she was too. She has had boyfriends before me but said she never went farther then lettin them finger her.

    When we had sex I envisioned her bleeding afterward, and my penis hurting during. But neither happened it didnt hurt at all for me like people said it would. It hurt her though because she was crying and was making wincing pain faces.

    Thing is she never bled at all, so does this mean she wasnt a virgin and maybe she is lying to me deep down?

    Thanks for the help..

    PS: Relationship is goin good, doesnt matter if she lied or not im just curious.
     
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    Well, the penis has no magical properties and so fingering can easily break the hymen. No biggie.
     
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    You don't have to bleed. If it hurt, that should clue you in. Some don't even hurt when they lose their virginity; it doesn't say anything about how honest that person is being. The only way you can tell if a person has lost their virginity to you specifically, is by telling you that they did. If you can't trust your woman, you probably have no right sleeping with her. I'm really not trying to be rude, so please do not take offense.
     
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    I thought that could be possible. And she has told me she masturbated before with like the end of a brush..Her substitute for a dildo I guess.. haha..
     
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    No offense taken at all, its not a trust thing, Im just wondering why I didnt hurt at all and my brother told me if she didnt bleed she wasnt a virgin.. Im just clueless...Like I said it doesnt bother me I love her so none of that matters. Just a curious cat I guess
     
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    And just as a point not all women actually have a hymen. :tup
     
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    there are many ways a woman can break her hymen. usually it breaks a little, bit by bit over time. sports, masterbating, using tampons, and being fingered by someone else will all take its toll. personally i didn't bleed or have any pain when i lost my virginity.

    and please believe your girlfriend next time
     
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    just caught the latest post... good for you for not blindly believing your brother and for checking out other sources
     
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    There's nothing wrong with that. :) That's why we're all here. But, just please know that your brother is grossly misinformed. Virginity can only really be determined by someone's word..I didn't bleed my first time. It hurt like hell, but I didn't bleed.
     
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    Thanks I definately expected to get flamed for postin that haha.
    But like I said it does not matter to me, we have an open relationship (verbal wise lol) and she told me she bled when her first bf fingered her. I guess growin up with an older brother you learn alot of crap that isnt true haha
     
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    You know, in many cultures, a newly married couple must 'endure' an "observer" :whoa who watches the first penetration, and then inspects the sheets to tell if the woman is a virgin or not.
    WTF?
    I'm very glad you joined :sf, and asked truly informed and enlightened people.

    I do not remember any blood when I lost my virginity. I had never masturbated in any way, but I do remember it hurting terribly.
     
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    i broke my gf's with my fingers before we had sex...our first time did not hurt her though, but she did masturbate. everyone is different, don't worry about it.
     
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    **Throws up hand and vigorously waves it over head**

    Sex inspector for hire here! Reasonable hourly rates, VISA and MC accepted. Demonstrations available for small service charge.

    (Did I actually say "small"?):eek
     
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    I didn't bleed at all my first time. I think I was actually more scared about bleeding then having sex. Everyone is different.