Okay, now I'm going to put this tired maxim out there, because my experience has borne it out. I have always been respectful and kind to women...but always went home alone. I've watched over and over as uglier, less fit and, by far, more crass and rude men got laid on a daily basis; while I went home alone every night. Now, I'm not some simple dolt who hasn't thought this through or had the benefit of experience...remember, I didn't get laid the last 14 years of my marriage and haven't been laid since my divorce 8 years ago. I've lived a lot of life and been open to many possibilities, but this one thing has proved true...nice guys sleep alone. When I was married, I always remembered birthdays, anniversaries, etc., would surprise my wife at work and take her out to lunch, spent time with her family members when she wasn't even around, did almost all of the house work and took care of our children....all because I wanted to and without being asked. But we all know how that turned out...I almost never had sex and, when we did, I eagerly took care of her needs...but she would never take care of me or, if she finally agreed to do so, did it very grudgingly and with no real desire. So now, when I take a woman out, I'm kind to her, respect her and show real interest in her. I'm not trying to get in her pants right away (though I'd love to do so) or even kiss her unless I feel she's comfortable with it. In other words, I try to treat the woman I'm with as I would want to be treated. The result....no sex since my divorce. After my marriage and the years since, I've decided that I'm just not aggressive or pushy enough to take a woman to bed. Though women claim they want sensitive, caring men, the truth is that men who are actually like this make great friends but don't turn women on...because they're leaning way over to their feminine side. Hence, all the gay men friends that some women have. This behavior is not sexually stimulating to women. I may never get laid again and the reason is, primarily, that I'm not aggressive in that area of life...and I cannot and, quite frankly, would not change. This is the man I am. So maybe some of you who suggested hookers are correct....but that goes against my nature and my general respect for women as well. So...as Clint Eastwood said in The Dead Pool, I may be "shit out of luck". What I don't get , however, is why in our "enlightened" times when women and men are supposedly more equal than ever, a woman can't help a man out at all in this area. Would it really be asking so much, especially with mature adults, that a woman give a man a clue? And I don't mean all of the, supposedly, subtle things...like why not actually indicate you're ready for something more in a concrete way? Why must grown men and women still play a guessing game? Part of this, of course, is our uptight American society, where we can't feel comfortable talking about sex with one another. We could learn so much from our European neighbors about these things. Okay...that's my rant for the night.