Newbie needs advice, want to show girlfriend heaven

Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by Timon, Jan 4, 2007.

  1. Timon

    Timon New Member

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    hi,

    just made an introduction post also :) i'm brand new to
    this forum,
    and to sex too kinda :eek:

    (warning btw, i use a lot of smileys always :eyes )

    anyway,
    this summer i fell in love with the nicest girl ever,
    and it was just hotness sparks and everything all over the place,
    the right way to describe her back then would probably
    be a wild animal :eyes

    we where both kinda virgins,
    but things just got so wild ... it happened before we realised realy

    but like you can imagine,
    it wasn't realy great sex, since we both are totaly new

    anyway, fast forwarding to today

    we are mostly only able to see eachoter in the weekend,
    as a result we don't have much oppertunity to have sex,
    and it's not like it's our priority,
    we usualy just go out with friends and do stuff,
    her parents won't allow her to stay over for the night,
    and i also can't sleep there :eyes

    all this means we like, eum, only had sex, eum, 15 times or so
    (no i don't count it :lol , just checked the number of used condoms missing)
    over a pritty large amount of time,

    so we are still incredibly unexperienced

    trying to get to the point now, because i fear i'm making this a huge story

    i know little about sex, she doesn't eather,
    i have the feeling i come to early, well at least before her,
    but i do always finish her manualy (dono how to call it else :) )

    she sais she doesn't mind at all that i'm unexperienced
    and sutch,
    she finds the sex we have very fun,
    but i still want to give her more ... i want to rock her world :D :eyes
    because i realy, realy love her

    anyway,
    i'm totaly unexperienced guy,
    and i realy want to improve for her,

    been looking arround a little, but i could realy use some advice
    or guidance :uhh:
     
  2. heelfetish

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    My best advice, without going into too much detail, is to try to focus 90% of your energy on her. Try to be as selfless as you can while having sex. Find her buttons, and do what you can to push them. Focus your attention on bringing her pleasure. Believe me, you will be pleasured in the process. :)

    Foreplay is of utmost importance. Spend whatever time you can pleasuring her long before actual penetration. Kisses and gentle caresses go a long way. :)

    Good luck, and have fun!
     
  3. Dreama

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    heelfetish got that one right. Being a giving and selfless lover always helps. And trust me, she'll probably be very happy to return the favor sometime.
     
  4. cbrmale

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    Women rarely come through intercourse alone, for me its happened a couple of dozen times (regardless of how long I last) over thousands of encounters. I work on the principle of 'she comes first' which means what you know as foreplay concentrates on my partners satisfaction right up to her orgasm, and then we move onto intercourse. Maybe she'll come again, with intercourse, maybe not, but by that stage it doesn't really matter.

    How you get her to orgasm is up to you, after lots of kissing and cuddling I like doing oral sex because it is intimate and personal for her, but it takes practice to be good at oral (like most things). You can find plenty of on-line resources on how to do oral on a woman, or you can stimulate her in other ways, or do combinations of both. There aren't any rules other than for both of you to enjoy it because sex is supposed to be pleasurable and fun for both of you.
     
  5. Bev

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    Take things slowly and be extremely sensual. Don't rush to get your own pleasure, take your time and enjoy the intimacy.
     
  6. Bluesy

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    Cunnilingus. Master it. Enough said ;)
     
  7. cbrmale

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    Ha, I love it! And it's so true!
     
  8. yorkiesmurf

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    My first question, is she over 18? If so then why does her parents have that much control over her? In all honesty if she is 18 and she wants to spend the night and this is a central issue for the two of you then there is very little her parents can do. Yeah her parents may get mad but parents get mad at their children as they leave the nest. It is a part of defining yourself as an adult and the process of taking responsidiblity of yourself. However if she is under 18, then why don't you wait to "rock her world" until she is 18? Eventhough you may not want to wait until she is 18 there is allot that her parents can do even if she is past the age of majority in your State. In the event she is not past the age of majority then you have absolutely no business being with her.

    For the rest of my reply I am going to make the assumption that she is at least 18 years old. Sex and relationships go together. If you do not have a good relationship then you do not have good sex. I suspect with her parents lurking in the background it is going to be difficult to have an adult relationship with her until she makes the decision to stop having them controlling her life. Until that happens very little is going to happen in the sex improving and having a better relationship with her.

    It is important when you spend time with her you deemphasize sex and focus on developing the relationship. The best way to do this is to find a common interest to do together. I am not talking about going out to a movie or dinner. Instead I am talking about finding a common interest and then developing it further. Maybe if both of you like hiking then maybe you could find a campsite that have hiking trails that you could explore together.

    Before your relationship can flourish she will need to mature and old enough where she can differentiate herself from her parents. This is a decision she will need to make herself without coersion from you and she will have to do this herself. If she does not want to do this or is not ready your relationship with her will have very little chance of success and what ever you attempt to do will be futile.
     
  9. AnonymousOne

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    Now there is something worth getting my PhD in! The woman speaks truth lad. Learn it, Love it, and GIVE IT!
     
  10. Timon

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    wow,

    yorkiesmurf

    nice

    i think i mostly knew what you said already,
    but it's nice to hear it from someone else

    and ye i think you are totaly right,

    and yes she is 18 already,
    but her relationship with her parents is .. far from good

    they hardly ever speak about anything else then, 'how was your day'

    and the problem probably is,
    that she's just to nice, or affraid maybe even,
    she feels as long as she lives with her parents, and they pay her (advanced) studies, she has to do what they say,

    but she is sick of them not paying any attention to what she wants,

    anyway,
    i'm not just one of those guys that's just in it for the sex,
    so i'm gona try to build a solid relationship,
    with stuff we both like to do,
    and well, like you said, the parents thingy and sutch is up to her realy,

    i wana support her where i can with it,
    but i get along great with my mom (only got one left)
    so i'm not entirely sure how to,

    but i'll follow my feeling,
    and advice is always very welcome
     
  11. Timon

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    and i have no idea what Cunnilingus is

    :eek:

    please don't kill me now :D
     
  12. melicious

    melicious The Old Maid
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    Oral sex. Licking!!! Loving with your tongue!
     
  13. cbrmale

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    Look it up with Google, read what is out there, and then practice! If you can master it, it doesn't matter what size you are or anything, you'll never have trouble satisfying your partners! And when you practice and perfect it, there is nothing better, it is the best part of sex for me!