I'm 40, separated, and getting a divorce. My wife and I had no other sexual partners before we dated/married (or while married), so STDs were never an issue. I've never even used a condom. I'll likely be entering the dating realm at some point. STDs are something I've never had to be concerned about, and they scare the shit out of me. I have no intention of having sex with someone until I've gotten to know them (at least had a few dates, spending some substantial time learning about each other). I'd do this anyway, regardless of STD risks, since the idea of casual sex doesn't appeal to me (I like to know who it is I'm doing). And obviously, I'll use protection. Since I've never had to think about STDs before, I'm pretty ignorant about the whole thing. I've been reading up on symptoms, risks, prevention, treatment, etc. But there's a couple things not covered in those kinds of articles. First, what's the typical protocol for asking someone about STDs and testing? This will be someone I've gotten to know (at least a little) by this point. Second, is there a way I can see their test results, and know it's really theirs, and not just have to take their word for it? I know that kind of distrust isn't a great way to start a relationship, but I don't want to mess around with this. So, how does this whole process work? Thanks.