New Here.. sex issues

Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by tiffers, Jun 22, 2012.

  1. tiffers

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    Hello, my name is Tiffany, im 29 and new to this. I was reading on here before I joined and decided to join and post. Sooo, I've been in a relationship with my much older boyfriend (23 years older) for almost 9 years. There has been sexual issues from the beginning off and on almost the entire relationship, especially with some "erectile problems" i have always been extremely sexual in nature and i think it's way too much for him to handle. Im always extremely sexually frustrated, to the point its depressing, but no matter how much i complain or attempt to sexually excite him he can only do it when he's good and ready. Im to the point im wishing i had someone else but i cant do that cuz we have children and responsibilities together.

    i guess im wondering if anyone has any ideas for me, advice, personal experience or just anything to try and help this situation.
     
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    Dump him and get a guy with a bigger penis.
     
  3. Dragon_Fire

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    Now, that would fix everything wouldn't it?:yell
     
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    Early fifties and erectile problems could be an indicator of physical health issues such as untreated diabetes or untreated heart disease. I recommend a physical check-up to rule these in or out.

    As part of the check-up there are many medications which are available for prescription. Cialis is the most effective oral medication as it has a very long half-life and therefore can be still effective several hours after ingestion. It's more natural. For very severe erectile dysfunction and particularly if there is a psychological aspect involved, injection therapy is very effective. It's not painful and is guaranteed to give a hard and long-lasting erection. I have minor spinal nerve damage and have relied on injection therapy for a long time, and it's extremely effective. But first up we need to rule out underlying health issues as ED at this age without a cause like my nerve damage is not normal.
     
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    the obvious ones are solo sex toys for you, or viagra for him, or even asking him if he wouls support you seeing a third person outside of the relationship, if he wanted to take part, or watch.
    Some may be into that, most not...
     
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    Oh and don't forget to tell him this is an issue, he can't help things if he is not knowlegable of it!
    Also, see if he is ok with using the sex toy on you, or watching you get your rocks off, that way he is still somehow involved but not using his cock. Ask for him to use his hands or mouth? There are my suggestions, though i'm guessing you've probably gone through some of them already.
     
  7. Trond

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    If he gets erections only sometimes, then I think that's actually pretty common for guys over 50. Otherwise, I think the others here have provided pretty good advice (except for bt1257, who is plainly thread-crapping).
     
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    Lol...I got a chuckle outta this...bt1257's cure for all women's problems...:lol

    Love it.....lol
     
  9. tiffers

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    thanx everyone for feedback! Ya, I don't think any stone has been left unturned, and I think he prob should see a doctor, im gonna have to force him though he hates doctors, either way, something has to change because im really sick of it :/
     
  10. Sexyforhim

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    Lol not even close.
     
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    Sexyforhim?????
     
  12. Trond

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    I think it was Bill Maher who said :"There's no greater passion than self-loathing." :lol
     
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    True that, isn't it usually men complaining about their wives or girlfriends never give it up? I guess if a woman complains its self loathing lol
     
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    Tiffers,
    My SO and I are of similar age difference and although we also do have some differential in libido and me ED we do work it out such that both are happy.
    She has a phenomenal appetite for sex needing muliple daily activity whereas I am satisfied with twice or three times a week only.
    I do take Cialis which solves the ED issue and our sex is varied, interesting and intense.
    For the rest of the time she uses a variety of vibrators and toys with which I assist her in achieving relief. I guess you could call it assisted masturbation but the point being that I partake in her sexual welfare, ie share physically and emotionally which certainly helps weld our loving relationship
     
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    Ya that sounds like really fun!!
     
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    Actually, I was talking about bt1257. He keeps telling girls to dump guys and find one with a bigger penis, and I think he himself has said he has a small one. :p
     
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    Just remember that he must be feeling very inadequate and depressed that he cant satisfy you. So be gentle when you talk about it w him. Other than that, get some meds for the ed and try to find a compromise. Its not fair for him to deprive you but its not fair for you to force sex on him either. So find middle ground.
     
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    bigger penis doesn't mean hes better at sex ;) love4u, i dont push the issue cuz i dont want him to feel pressure, and i def wouldn't and sadly couldn't force sex even if i wanted to... Unfortunately hahahaha!! Idk what to do other than suggest seeing a doctor?? I've tried everything its kinda down to up to him to figure out now
     
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    Hello budddiiieees.......

    Just to say that both are human and both want to do the same but a boy can express with the girl friends and same time the replies no, but the thing is she also want to have the fun..............


    Thanks...........

    Amsterdam Escort
     
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    Tiffers pay no kind to bt 90% of his post are dump him and get a man with a bigger penis. And he's stated he has a small penis...