New guy looking for a bit of advice and looking to learn some things

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  1. NewManOLove

    NewManOLove New Member

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    Hey, everyone! Lost my virginity recently, and looking to learn a few things! Glad to see a place around that everyone can discuss this stuff! Main thing I'm curious about is how do I not last as long? I know it sounds weird, but that's the only complaint my girl has about me is that I last far too long... the first time we did, it was an hour and a half... I'm sure I'll have more questions and other things to talk about eventually! Thanks, everyone!!
     
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    For the first 4 months of my first big relationship i lasted on average 2-3 hours. I found it was anxiety.

    Basicly, much of sex is in your head. If your uncomfterble or anxious about something, hell the air could be too cold or too warm, and it will be hard for ya to cum ( at least in my case). I suggest you relax. If she wants you to cum a little sooner, then plan something:

    First, make sure the room is warm, not hot, but not cold, 78-80 is good.

    Be fully naked, that way your clothes dont bother either of you.

    Start out with a bunch of foreplay start kissing, start touching and slowly work up to craving penetration.
    (if you can, start with a chase, go out somewhere, dinner or somewhere you CANT have sex or mutual masturbation or anything of the sort, and have her constantly turn you on. When your in line for something she should be rubbing your penis with her ass, she should touch you descretely, and do this for a while. By the time you get home your ready to explode :))

    Try using aeromatic oils, candles or other things to help you relax.

    Focus focus focus. Have sex, make it last, but after a bit focus on one thing, how it feels. Focus on every bit of movement, every bit of feeling you have while your inside her.

    RELAX. Remember, this girl really likes you (your having sex) shes not gona judge you shes not waiting for you to screw up, shes just recieving pleasure form you, and giving you some in return. Calm your mind and just enjoy whats happening.

    With time you will be relaxed and comfertable enough with her that you can decide how long you last based on occasion. Youll be able to pop in 10 min for a quickie so yaall arnt late for something, or last an hour or two for an awesome sexual session!!!

    GL to ya!! And Gratz!
     
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    [​IMG] & [​IMG] to :sf!
    ~Bella
     
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    You'll find plenty of advice on this subject in the General Sex Discussion forum :) And using the "search" function near the top would provide a lot of answers to your question very quickly! Hope you stick around :)

    P.S. You might want to try "delayed ejaculation" in your search.
     
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    Welcome to SF! :)
     
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    Ryan Gold Member

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    Welcome to :sf!
     
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    Wilkommen. And there's no such thing as lasting too long. :dgrin
     
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    My GF would like you.She tells me I don't last long enough.
     
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    Welcome to :sf , so glad you could make it. [​IMG]
     
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    Hello and welcome to :sf...the best sex discussion forum on the internet. :)