OK, so I have this new girlfriend and can't seem to get her off. This is a first for me, however, I am not a quitter, so I would appreciate some help. So, I am 49 and she is 47 and pre-menopause. We are very open talking about sex and, naturally, she has no problem making me happy. She can make herself achieve orgasm, but I appear helpless in doing so, myself, for the first time in my life. I love to perform oral on her, but that has not worked to a climax so far. She really enjoys oral, as I do enjoy giving it, but it just takes forever and ever and nothing that resembles an orgasm ever comes of it. I have had a fair bit of experience and do understand what I must do to achieve orgasm in this manner with every other partner I've ever had. She says the only way she can climax is to lie on her tummy and use her fingers or vibrator. A lot of times when we're together, even she is unable to reach climax herself. I've never been with a partner that has ever had such difficulty. I've tried using my fingers, but can seem to make it work for her. We've tried various positions performing intercourse and rubbing the spot with my fingers, but that doesn't work either...and that has been very successful in the past with most of my previous girlfriends, including my ex wife. We are still quite new, but I'm starting to feel inadequate at this point. I know she loves me, as do I her. She seems willing to want to experiment, so I would like some advice on what to do or what to ask from her. She is OK with me using toys and she really wants me to be a part of it. So what do you suggest I do to get her off her stomach and have an orgasm with me? I love her very much and I'm concerned this could be a problem if I don't find a way. Besides, what man in love doesn't want to make his partner happy in every way?