new bf already wants sex

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  1. katy

    katy New Member

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    I've been dating this guy for the last few days and he already wants sex. He wants me to go sleep at his house and do those stuff already.

    Do you guy think it is too early also or is it just me ?
     
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    That is strictly up to you my dear.
     
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    personally, i think it can never be to early for sex.. i am not an early bird, but for a good fucking, i'd get up at 4:00AM.. :lol
     
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    Hey - if it 'clicks' - then go for it. If you're not sure, then don't.

    I've had sex VERY early in a relationship - - but that's ME. Every woman (and man, for that matter) needs to know what is important to them, and then act accordingly. This is one of those topics that "advice" is not what you need. What you need, is to know what you want. Then do it.
     
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    In my younger years I could have worn one of those t-shirts that reads, "I fuck on the first date."

    However, just because I fucked on the first date didn't mean that I would fuck just anyone. I always knew within the first five minutes of a date whether I was sexually attracted to a guy. Being a guy he (naturally) wanted to get laid, and so did I, so it happened because I wanted to and was ready. There was one time where a guy for some reason didn't want to have sex (maybe he didn't have any protection or something) but he let me suck him off.

    However, my total number of sex partners isn't all that high because I actually didn't go out on dates very often.
     
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    I say wait a little longer makes him want it more LOL
     
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    Question id ask myself is , does he want sex with you just to get an extra bed notch, or because he loves you .....

    Like most have said here, sit back take a deep breath then think what it is you want ( as its you that matters, your feelings ) if your not ready to have sex with him tell him so.....if you are then go for it :)

    If he gets all bent out of shape because you said your not ready then at least one thing is pretty much clear, its not because he loves you...
     
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    If it feels too early to you, then it probably is. Every relationship is different
     
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    Well the thing is it will be my first time and I don't want to have sex with just anyone. I wanna make sure he is not just with me for sex.
     
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    Well, hell, girl! It's a no-brainer (and I'm blond! :lol ) - If you're unsure, then it is NOT the right time. It may very well be the right person, but not the right time. Your first experience should have meaning to you. don't do it for the sake of the partner... or for the sake of keeping some 'boyfriend'. You will remember your first time forever - whether good or bad.

    So, make it count, honey.

    Love,
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    I second what grandma said, If your unsure, wait until you are sure. You'll definately want your first time to be special..(not some drunkin night on a camping trip...damn you vodka, damn you)
     
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    I personally don't think it is too early, I have had sex with girls on our first date together. I wouldn't get too tied up about LOVE, because true, deep and awe-inspiring love is a rare thing, but if you like each other and feel comfortable, then why not?

    Possibly you are wavering because you don't feel right about him, but you might be wavering about what society seems to say about girls who have sex in certain situations. But this is a decision for you and your boyfriend. So ask yourself are you ready and is he the right man for you now?
     
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    I think if you are asking this queston, then you are not ready.

    Here is something my dad used to tell me, it applied to many things....

    When in doubt....Don't
     
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    Hi Katy

    100% it is TOO early!

    Ok I probably don't fit into the normal or average category of man, because I prefer to get inside the mind of a woman before her pants.

    In my opinion the first time should be special.

    Go for it right now and it might be for you.

    But after dating for just a few days, the chances are that it will be a disappointment.

    Look after yourself and don't be persuaded into doing anything you don't feel ready for.
     
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    Its too early

    Make him wait....he might be used to women who make it too easy for him......

    Yes I agree with Brad....let me penetrate your mind before he penetrates you &^%&

    Men are often more interesting before they have sex with you.......

    lol
     
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    Timing for everyone is different.

    As it is your first time let him wait until you are ready. If you mean anything to him he will wait.:)
     
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    Well, hell, girl! It's a no-brainer (and I'm blond! ) - If you're unsure, then it is NOT the right time. It may very well be the right person, but not the right time. Your first experience should have meaning to you. don't do it for the sake of the partner... or for the sake of keeping some 'boyfriend'. You will remember your first time forever - whether good or bad.

    So, make it count, honey.

    Love,
    Grandma

    Katy
    Their is 2 answers from a Lady thats been their,
    And one we all trust, So listen to Her.

    Hiker:sf
     
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    Katy Katy Katy, I know you are horny and just want to try this whole sex thing, but I think you are rushing into your feelings. Get to know the guy first even if its just a couple months. If he will not wait, well, to bad.
     
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    It is good to see the men of SF being so supportive of the female dilemmas which plague us from time to time...well done lads!!

    Oh and Hiker....it is there (not their) :)
     
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    Oh well, Their isn't enough complaints to have a complaint department.
    So Their is Sexy to keep us straight.