Nervous Newbie

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  1. johnnyangel694u

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    Hello Everyone,
    Just wanted to take a minute and introduce myself. I am new at this and a little nervous. I joined the forum to see if anyone else is going through what I am going through sexually and if anyone has some ideas. I also hope to meet some great people. Hope to talk to you soon.:)
     
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    There are many fabulous people here, so you've come to the right place. Jump right in whenever you're ready! And welcome :)
     
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    I guarantee that someone here is going through what you are going through sexually. Don't be nervous or shy. Believe me we've heard everything and are here to offer our advice and help without prejudice or judgment. Come on in, the water's fine! :)
     
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    [mouse]welcome:) [/mouse]
     
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    Yes ... Faaaaaaabulous. :lol

    No on a serious note. Welcome to SF, we're all pretty laidback and enjy just sharing advice, experiences and generally just hanging out.
     
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    Welcome to :sf Will. :)
     
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    Thanks for making me feel comfortable. One quick question. Where would be the best place to post about wifes mid-life sex decline and depression meds?
     
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    General Sex talk or the General Relationship section, we're not extremely strict about where things go. (and yes I mean that metaphorically as well).
     
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    Will,
    In a couple any kind of "sex decline" is usually a 2 way thing. Maybe you have something to do with the decline!
     
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    :welcome to :sf
     
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    True but the depression meds probably have a lot to do with it as well. It's a well-known fact that anti-depressants severely diminish the sex-drive, or kill it altogether.
     
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    Welcome, and lets hear what ya have 2 say..I mean when ever your good and rdy..I'm sure this place will give you lots of positive feedback!!
     
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    Antidepressants= low sex drive.
    Low sex drive= depression.

    Kind of a Catch-22 situation.

    She should *at least* talk to her doctor about the loss of libido. Some antidepressants aren't as bad as others in that regard. I know of some women who have changed their diets for huge improvements in libido. One diet that's gotten a lot of attention lately is the "Zaneblue Diet", which consists of lots of fish oil and a few other good things. You can find Zaneblue and the diet on the boards of hisandherhealth.com. Might be worth looking into, but I wouldn't advise that your wife go on any diets without first talking to her physician about it. Good luck to both of you.
     
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    It is a long story covering about 6 years. Turning 40, accusing me of affair, meeting with priest and marriage counseling and the whole 9 yards. I have tried talking about it but it is like talking to a brick wall. No communication on her part. I am on wits end and my right hand is getting tired. lol
     
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    The lack of communication makes it almost impossible to do anything about it, but there must be SOME communication if you've talked (together?) with a priest and marriage counselor. My ex wouldn't even do that. We lived our last 12-14 years together with NO sex, and she wouldn't even do me the favor of acknowledging there was anything wrong. It was ME; I was a pervert for wanting to have sex in my 30s and 40s. I finally gave up and divorced her when I was 47. I wish you luck.
     
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    Sounds familiar. To quote her. I don't have a problem. You are the problem.
     
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    first depression=low sex drive, then the meds, then it comes around the bend in the the vicious circle with the lack of sex causing more depression and alienation. :ugh

    when i first heard the Cymbalta comercial, i heard that first line and was not watching the tv:
    "where does depression hurt?"
    i immediately said 'everywhere.' which, for those who don't see this commercial everyday like me, that's the next line.

    my jaw dropped, as a chronic suffer of both clinical depression and the side effects of medication....i felt like i was being under stood. kinda like the round zoloft bouncy ball guy.
     
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    :lol Exactly! After 10-12 years without sex I asked her if we couldn't just try it once. And to quote her, "No. You wouldn't be satisfied. You'd just want to do it again." :ugh


    You should have heard some of the stories she told her friends after the divorce.
    1. "We had a perfect marriage."
    2. "He wanted kinky sex, and I'm not into that."
    3. "He was having affairs for years."

    It seems that every night she went out with the girls, it was a different story.
     
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    Isn't that the whole point? :uhh: