Nerves/newbie

Discussion in 'General Sex Discussion' started by Tech, Mar 27, 2008.

  1. Tech

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    I am kind of in a new relationship. my second ever. But still early days. anyway, i do like her alot. We have had sex twice, the second time didnt go so well unfortunately.

    I know I have a problem when it comes to sex, but trying to "solve it" but no idea how.

    For someone who hasn't "licked" pussy.... whats the best way to satisfy her? What can I do to make her feel more...well, better and kind of more close to me and to open up a little bit more in that, she is more comfortable with me?

    What if I don't want to lick her, just yet....what do I do in that sense?

    What about getting another arousal...because the problem I have is that after I give out my load, I feel thats pretty much it and can't do more, but want to. any tips for keeping it up and running?

    Tips/tricks please!
     
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  3. Tech

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    Thanks
    I disagree with the first paragraph already but ok.... :)
     
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    I agree with CL. Bella's advice could not be better. Everybody has to start somewhere!
     
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    Vary the speed and pressure of your licks as well as switching up the direction of the licks.
     
  6. ctown75

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    Try it all.

    There is no need to be embarrassed now because you are having sex so ASK HER if she likes what you are doing when you are doing it and what areas she likes to be liked and caressed the most.I would also say go buy a book,I am not talking porno but a book for a regular book store under the sexuality area or look on this site and other informational sites on the net and try EVERYTHING and have FUN with it.
     
  7. Bluesy

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    Congrats on your new relationship! I remember when you were waiting anxiously for that special someone to come along. All good things to those who wait, eh? :)

    Aside from the good advice already given...
    Give it a little time. Many people gradually drop their inhibitions the more familiar they become with a partner (it's all about emotional security), and that takes time. A woman's sexuality is usually fairly dependent on her body image, she has to feel beautiful to be able to really get comfy and let go...you can assist by complimenting her generously, by showing and telling her how much you enjoy her body. Fortify your emotional bond: let her know how you feel about her, do little romantic things for her.

    That's perfectly normal, hon. Most guys will deflate after they ejaculate. Some guys will be ready to go again ten minutes later, some need an hour or so, and others are pretty much done for the day. Age is certainly a determining factor, along with physical condition. Intercourse is certainly not the end-all-be-all for us ladies, there's always plenty of other fun to be had :brow
     
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    Bella's thread is very good! ;) Depending on your partner, it may really be quite erotic to purposefully just slow things down...sometimes going from faster to just erotically slow and purposeful is enough to push your partner on over the edge! One of the things I do to slow myself down with the lickin' is to write out a few words with my tongue...use big letters and write slowy, hitting every body part in the vicinity. :brow

    And for you on working up to a 2nd helping...if you don't mind tasting yourself (if your cum is good enough for your partner, it ought to be good enough for you, right? If you've got any inhibitions here, drop 'em and do it!), go down on her again after you cum in her. If you love what you're doing, she'll be squirming and you'll be getting hard again. When you're both ready, flip her over and do her doggie-style. I occasionally do a 2nd helping nowadays (used to could do it quite often when I was younger...dammit! :yell), and I have to really work for my 2nd orgasm. But oh boy when it arrives...wooo whooo! Let's just say I get a bit loud. :D

    BD