Needing help

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  1. jessy-wonders

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    I am 19 years old and after a really bad encounter with my past boyfriend I've been having trouble being attracted to men. I know I am not a lesbian as I have no attraction to females. Is there something wrong with me? I've been trying to find and find that "special" person but have had no luck becoming aroused with them.
     
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    stop "trying" to find that special someone. he will come to you.
     
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    Sometimes, emotional scars are tough to get over. It may just take some time. While waiting, I encourage you to dive into other areas of interest in your life. Develop passions that don't need a 'partner' to fulfill - art, music, perhaps even a career goal that excites you. If the past relationship damaged your self-esteem, focusing on you and the things you love will help in your healing.

    And I do agree with 'bsxy420', in that being preoccupied with finding someone can work against you. Finding those things that YOU love, and enjoying them for a while, will have permanent results. Mr. Wonderful will probably come into your life, and you may not even know it right away - 'cuz you're having so much fun!! :)
     
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    Ok thanks :)
     
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    I had a similar problem, and 'solved' it with meaningless casual sex. It took a while to get my head straight enough to have a real relationship with a real woman, and for too long I was driven by the male sex urge.

    Looking back, I wish I hadn't waited for a proper relationship, although by waiting I crossed paths with the most amazing woman in the universe. Nonetheless I now feel like I missed something very important.

    I suggest you see someone professional to talk about your issues and problems. A psychologist should be able to give you assistance and advice in a couple of sessions. Maybe you'll get over it on your own, or maybe it'll take a long time without help.
     
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    Just take your time J-W.
    Hearts mend, And an open mind invites love.

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    Say a prayer and express your need! God answers!
     
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    ok thank you everyone my friends think I should go to a therapist as well as a cop
     
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    but I think the professional help maybe a good idea :)
     
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    Jesse said
    Care to explain that Jessie, Was you raped or what?

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    I'm guessing either rape or physical abuse - both of which leave a terribly shattered emotional state.
     
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    My boyfried of 6 months molested me
     
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    I'm so sorry for what happened to you, I just hope you do the right thing and get the law involved. What he did to you was illegal, immoral, and disgusting. Chances are, he's going to do it to another woman unless he's held accountable for his actions. You have a chance to save a woman from the pain you are experiencing now, please do it.
     
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    Exactly. As CL said, it is totally wrong for a person to do that to you. Do not let him get the better of you, and perhaps another unsuspecting woman. Be brave. I am so sorry that this happened to you.