I'll make it short. I'm in a great, very emotionally intimate 6 month relationship. We discuss sexuality very opemly and are non exclusive. We promised that we would be open and share if we're have sex with an outside person to be forthcoming. We're in our early thirties. We both ended serious long term relationships a few years ago. Prior he's been very sexually active with women. We're both interested in exploring some fetishes and have high sex drives. I've alwasy had to iniate the intimacy. He has never in six months but assures me he enjoys sex and is vey passionate , affectionate and tender. I accidentally discovered a blog that he was getting a ton of mail from. I looked at it and saw a 19 year old females sexual profile. Descriptions of her and her boyfriend and lots of his praise. I found sexual photos of him as well. I confronted him and called him decetful. He got extreemly angry , I have not experienced it. He accused me of spying on him and breaking his trust. I explained how it happened and apologized. He said he was sorry for his reaction and that they were from a long time ago. It was just for fun. I accepted it and two months later... It was open on his computer when I went to use it. He had current photos of them engaging in sexual acts. I was very angry and expressed my hurt at being deliberately mislead. He denied not being upfront. Claimed they were just posed and not really sexual ... They didn't have intercourse so he belived that he didn't need to tell me. He said he knew I was aware and wouldn't post things he was hiding from me. He admitted that it was his profile. He uses his exes pictures to get photos and responded from men. He enjoies reading them. I felt intrusive and had no place finding the sight. He's always made jokes about his metrosexual personality and how he's been mistaken for homosexual growing up. He mentioned it would be fun to have me lick his ass. He knows I'm openly bisexual and had a bisexual boyfriend before. Now he's asking me if men can be bisexual or i they're just confused. He responds that he dosent think so. He tellse his friend watches men matsurbatiNg v and That it's odd. I say not really and that its no indicated of sexual attraction. We all have fetishes or taboos we are attracted to. We both didn't address that he was asking for these things on the blog. I haven't brought it up again and really try to avoid any topic related. I don't know if he's trying to deny it to me or himself.... Or trying to tell me he likes men. I don't want to make him feel violated and exposed. But I want to let him know that I care for him and am attracted to him regardless of his activity or identity. He's really been avoiding interacting and alwasy is making plans with me and dissipating. He's had a bunch of personal issues and I belive that he's been depressed and closing off. We had discussed a threesome and i shared a desire for another male. He was very turned off by the idea. Usally he's not as distressed if he's not interested. More months to by and he's telling me about his female friends and how they have been hanging out a lot. Some females that got undressed in front of him. He's always been pretty quiet about his encounters. This was very deliberate. Time continues and he sends pictures of her at the bar with a man. We chat and he says that his date has been talking with another guy all night... it's ok Beacause it's friendly. More time and I get a video of them dressing after sex. I joke and make a funny comment. He apologizes and says she's very jelpus and was drunk. She shouldn't have done that and he's very upset. I say I'm kinda flattered she's jeous and tell him I know they're dating. I'm not trying to be disrespectful just tell me your busy and I'm not inturrupt. He says it was totally an overreaction of hers because they're not dating. little bit more time. I get a picture of two other girls. He apologizes and says she was trying to send it to herself. Again I made light of it and said wellie it happens again im going to ask them how my pussy tastes when she's kissing you. He laughed like crazy and flirted through text all night. I'd told him I want to be closer again and I care and miss him. I invite him out and he can't even reply and decline. We haven't seen eachother in months. What is the healthiest thing for him now ? Do I tell him I accept him and just be upfront? Will that make him feel outed and not belived. Do i just keep acting like I don't know he's been watching it and continue to reach out avoiding sexuality. He's lost all his suppot system, was let go from his employer , moved in with his parents and needs a real friend. I think it's been too hard to interact with me now and his new friends he's still able to influence his perception. I feel like I let him down. That's not my place to discover any sexual interest or activity. I violated him. Please give me some feedback. I'm really worried about him and want our friendship back.