Need to get back into "sex mode" after girlfriend's injury

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  1. celtics233

    celtics233 New Member

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    My girlfriend had a bad break of her ankle when falling off a horse just over 2 weeks ago. It required surgery, tons of pain meds, etc. She stayed at her mom's up until yesterday.

    During that time, everything changed in the sense that we had a lot less privacy, and almost no fooling around, and most of the time together was helping her do something, be it shower or whatever else. we WERE able to fool around a couple of times, and everything went fine.

    Yesterday she moved back to her place, and i had trouble staying aroused when we went to have sex. basically i just feel like my body isn't in a "sexual mode" after all this stuff. i'm not sure what we need to do to get back into everything. i still am "attracted" to her, and emotionally we're as close as ever after all this. we tried having sex again this morning, and i just started thinking about last night and ran into more trouble.

    i know it's easy to say "don't think about it," but it's more the two weeks of having the focus of our relationship not be sexual, and i'm not sure how to turn it around.

    she still does have a cast on, which comes of friday, and then she'll hav a cast she can take on and off to shower, etc. i feel like maybe once that's off i will feel like we are getting "back" to the normal relationship? i'd be open to hearing any suggestions.
     
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    Injuries like that take a long time to heal, wait another two weeks before pushing regular sex again.
     
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    from your answer, i'm just not sure you understood what i was getting at. it's not that i want regular sex, it's that i don't seem to want it. i'm kind of "shut off" sexually. i'm not interested in watching porn or masturbating either. i'm not sure if you read my whole post.
     
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    Perhaps you feel you will hurt her??? I bet things to back to normal once she has her cast off.
     
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    I'm with CL, Just relax and give Her plenty of time
    to get back to normal.
    She was taking a ton of meds and they affect her moods.
    Christ Man you are acting like the one that got hurt.

    Hiker
     
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    It also could be that as a male you're in the "protector" mode and it can be very difficult to get into a sexual mood while that is the case. Take some time, and just meditate on it. No I don't mean in some strange mystical way, but give it some thought about what exactly your mindset is.

    Give it a little time and I have a feeling your hormones will be back at it!
     
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    Oh, your sex drive was gone. Oops.
     
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    maybe forget intercourse and just keep it light. She's probably still sore but if she's up to having some fun, you could give her a sensual massage followed with oral sex. Slowly easing back into things instead of feeling pressured to have sex may help "rekindle" the fire.
     
  9. xplodez

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    he meant HE was not in the mood for sex.. not her..