Need some opinions

Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by Nicki, Jul 17, 2005.

  1. Nicki

    Nicki New Member

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    Hi all

    I got something to ask need an opinion, and I'll try and make it short and to the point.
    First off I'm Bi and been that way since I was 15 y/o, when I first did the girl girl thing.
    I don't discuss much of that side of me in my r/t life, in fact my new b/f of a few weeks doest know it yet.
    Or my parents also, I'd probably get disowned or killed if they ever knew.
    When I feel comfortable and get to know certain people I hang with, I let them in on it at the right place and time.

    Now getting to what I'm trying to get across here. plain and simple and quick.
    When I'm having sex making it with my g/f, both of our orgasms are extreme breathless multiple ones, awesome is more like it and we both know it!
    We take our time in doing each other gently and slowly exploring our bodies, paying extra attention to certain things as only a girl knows how to do to another. We know how to bring each other off, and love it. Hope you can understand?
    And when I'm doing it with my new b/f, the best I can say is he gets me off some, but not the same type of rush that I enjoy or need to get me over that edge.
    I try and explain to him in detail what I like done, and where I feel it that counts.
    He starts out the way I ask him to, then minutes later ends up doing it his way, and sometimes he cums first leaving me hanging,
    and I have to finish myself off afterwards.

    Don't get me wrong here, I'm not lez or becoming one, or that my priorities are messed up or cause of my age, I still love sex with guys as well as with my g/f.
    My last b/f was outstanding in bed we were in sync climaxing together everytime , only thing wrong with him was he had this major bad attitude prob with a drug thing he got into, I couldn't cope with that sorta stuff! .. sorry no way!
    I really like this new guy alot he's all that, cute and fun to be with and more, only thing is the sex could be better, and that part is definite need I think. Like I said I've only known him for just a few weeks, hate to loose him. Any ideas on what I'm talking about here? Anyone relate to this? I'm trying to have the best of two things, is it possible or not?

    BTW I'm new here, and I had a tough time of it surfin the web for a sexual q/a site, not to many that caught my eye.
    Hope this site works out, I'm still checking things out here and a couple other places I've yet to try.

    Thanks ahead of time for your replies, whatever they are.
     
  2. Shellen77

    Shellen77 New Member

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    You have a GF & a BF? If so, maybe you should just have one or the other at this point.
     
  3. Rose

    Rose Resident Sexy Grandma
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    Welcome to the forum, Nicki.
    Like you said, a woman is naturally going to know exactly what to do, where to touch, what movements to make, etc., so of course your sex with her is perfect. You can completely lose yourself, because you don't need to 'coach' her on what you like.
    I am not Bi, so I may or may not be completely 'on' here, but perhaps you are comparing apples to oranges. You may never get the same outcome from a guy, compared to your girlfriend. Or it may take a lot of patience and understanding on your part. Your expectations for the guy may need to be changed - lowered?

    This new boy needs to learn about your body. G/f has a definite advantage there!
    If you really like this new guy, I would give him some more time. It took years for my hubby to really learn and respond to my body's needs the way I like. - but he did learn. :brow
     
  4. Brian

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    Welcome Nicki, I think women mature quicker and it might be the maturity level (sexually) of your new BF. Take me for example, I had to learn to nurture my woman through sex because when we were first together I just ounded away with no regard to much else and truly believed that what you see in porn is how ALL women respond to sex. Now that I've aged a bit, I understand...or as my woman says, I get it!
     
  5. Nicki

    Nicki New Member

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    Thanks Michelle nice to meet you

    I don't think i could really give up one or the other, just something i can't do.
     
  6. Nicki

    Nicki New Member

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    Hi Rose
    Thank you for reply and that welcome.

    I'll see how things go along, and i'll take your tip and give it some time.
     
  7. Nicki

    Nicki New Member

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    Hi there Brian

    Hope you got my reply to that message you sent me.
    I think i'm not to savvy here in trying to figure out how things work.

    Somehow i messed up my replies to everyone here? are they suppose to be posted that way or not? sorry for my mistake.
     
  8. kbate

    kbate New Member

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    Hi,

    If your boyfriend is unable to satisfy you, you should begin telling him what you like him to do. He will be embarrassed at first and a little hurt, but if he listens to you it will not be long before he gains the experience and ability to please you as you require. (and he will realise this when it happens).

    Force him to take his time and explore your body as does your girl.

    It is also possible that he is a person that will never click sexually with you, it does happen.
     
  9. uprok

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    I think unless he is really immature, that you should go right ahead and completelely explain your situation to him. Most men would be happy to have a bi woman in their lives, at least I know I would. Mature enough to not be threatened by it. Hell I think every mans dream is to be involved in something like that. At least as learning experience. If you are not able to explain this to him and you don't think he will understand. Then take more time to teach him your desires. Men as most of might be able to admit are slow learners. We are taught as little boys to just get the job done and that is how we solve all of lifes little mysteries. If you like him alot just enjoy your time with him and keep your pleasure for your gf.