Hey there folks. I'm sure this is nothing new, but I'm hoping someone might have some advice anyway. My wife and I have been married for just over 5 years. We're very happy, but we've never really had a terribly engaging sex life. I came to her a virgin, whereas she'd had a few partners before me (including some flirtations with bisexuality). She's a few years older than I am, and she pretty much got her "college sex wild oats" sown before we ever met so that by the time she met me, she was no longer interested. It didn't help that I had serious performance anxiety and had problems staying erect (a problem that, frustratingly, seems to be coming back now). So anyway, flash forward a few years, and while we HAVE had a fair amount of sex, it's been pretty....ordinary I guess. I have some fantasies I'd like to play out, but she has so far rebuffed them. I understand the need for reciprocity, and I've repeatedly offered to act out any fantasies she might have, but she swears up and down that she doesn't have any. So I pretty much have stopped asking for anything "special" because she just gets annoyed at me for it. We've tried establishing a "schedule" for sex, but the moment either one of us is tired or sore or had a bad day, we toss it aside. If we try to rely solely on spontaneity, nothing ever happens - I'm apparently too clumsy and awkward in my attempts to "woo" her, and if we wait for her to initiate nothing will ever happen. I love my wife, and I know this is not going to impact our relationship, but...we've never really had a "spark" in the bedroom and I don't know how to get one.