I have an issue... yes this is my first post and I dont usually seek help online but hey, this is not somthing I want to discuss with anyone face to face. First off this is my first post so I'd like to say hello to everyone. I just got married last year in august. My wife and I were both virgins... we were together for a little over a year before we got married. On to the sexual part of the story. Before we got married we both loved to give and recieve oral sex but we never had actual intercourse. I am male and wanted to follow suit and just bang her brains out every night. But.... I respected her wishes and did not force her to do anything. Shortly after we got married the sex just seems very... boring so to say. I almost think my wife doesnt like to have sex and this drive me crazy. Her dad recently passed away and I believe that has alot to do with it. I try to tell her what I like and what I want our sex to be like and she seems to ignore it. It's almost to a point where she just spreads her legs to make me happy. Am I alone here? How can I revive my wifes sexual feelings and jump start our relationship into a better sex life? I try to cuddle and hug and kiss here but it just does not seem to help. Can stress really make our sex life this bad? I am almost to the point to where I dont know what to do anymore. I would NEVER get divorced over a situation like this. I just want it to get better. I need mature responses and good advice as to what I can do to her or for her to pleasure her so she WANTS sex. I want her to WANT it. I'm sick of feeling like shes only spreading her legs to keep me happy. If your wondering, yes we have talked about this several times and it only makes her mad when I bring it up.