So I have sort of an unfortunate situation: (sorry its a long read but I could really use some help) My girlfriend (who is almost 21, and I am 19) of just short of a year just broke up with me. She says she "needs some time to work her shit out". Now we have been having alot of problems, mainly in the last 5-6 months. She has a real problem with intimacy (sexually and non-sexually) and has/had a hard time fully commiting to the relationship. She constantly would turn me down for sex and we only did it a couple times a month for the last few months, but since the beginning I have been trying to talk to her about our infrequency. She even pushes me away when I kiss her sometimes, and makes me feel like a sex fiend for trying to be with her (shes absolutley anghelic by the way). Now she has her reasons; she was raped a couple years ago (by a Seattle City police officer actually). She told me that before the incident she was totally balanced and normal, but now that it's happened, she is really uncomfortable and apprehensive about love in general. So now she says we need to break up for a bit because she needs to do some soulsearching. She says we wont be able to have a healthy relationship unless she breaks away and figures this out, and she doesn't want to do it with me as her boyfriend. She does want to remain friends, but its only been a few days and I feel like im dying. I'm miss her and I'm afraid that we wont end up together again. I dont really know what to do, shes my best friend still and I still am in love with her. I dont have a friend to talk to because normally I would go to her when I'm having trouble but the discussion always gets too emotional (like it would if we were still dating). sorry for the long read but does anyone have an advice of have you been in a similar situation? I'm very picky about who I date and I've never felt this strongly about someone. I told her I wanted to stick with her and help her, and that I dont care that we dont have sex really, but she says she needs to do it alone.