So, I have been in this relationship. Trouble is, I really love this person and she feels the same way about me. But, she has an issue which really isn't her fault at all. She jokingly described herself as "damaged goods" lol. Truth be known, she underwent some invasive surgery when she was younger. This surgery and alot of the procedures left her in a physical state which to this day prevents her from having a child. Not that she can't get pregnant, because she is capable of having and carrying a child but from what she's been told by doctors it would likely kill her and the fetus. So okay, we can't have children. That's not a point of contention between us. But alas, she is allergic to latex and therefor contraceptives are not an option. So we opt for the pull out method, but its hard work and honestly I don't know how effective or safe this is. I don't want to "pull out" for the rest of my life, mostly because I don't want to constantly risk getting her pregnant and have to put her in a position where she has no other choice than to get an abortion (which is expensive, and which could also kill her). She also can't take birth control pills. She actually can handle having someone with a condom in her but only for about 10 minutes, after which point it physcially hurts and burns her. So, what can we do here? Any birth control methods anyone knows about? How effective is this pull-out method? Like I said, this is somebody I really care about, otherwise I would just let this be reason to stop seeing this person. Its not even an issue NOW, but who knows all the little things that end up coming between couples as years pass.... Err...Uh...help?