Need pointers on turning my hubby into an animal

Discussion in 'Sexual Foreplay and Techniques' started by Barbwire, Dec 14, 2012.

  1. Barbwire

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    I was just reading something 12BB wrote in a thread a while back about how Slutty likes him to "take" her and be forceful.

    I would love to be "raped" by my husband or b/f but they are both too gentle.

    How do I get at least my hubby to turn into a beast that ravages my body? Or at least get my b/f so fired up that when he finally does have sex with me for the first time he really puts it to me?
     
  2. AtkCCC

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    Good question. Wifey has a simular desire. I'm somewhat hesitant to participate due to my respect for her and women in general. I suppose like any thing, boundrys need to be established and a knock it off code word stated.

    We have done some light Bondage that was fun..
     
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  3. 12barblues

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    My advice.....motivate him.....first you have to convince him it's ok to do. Which is harder than it sounds because you love each other. Then you motivate him. I have a hard time being aggressive with her....unless......unless....she has done something to deserve it. Maybe flirting with another guy ....or saying something to " antagonize " me.....I have a lot more to say about this but I have no time at the moment sorry....ttyl.
     
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    for us if you want to try something new....watch porn and just ask, hey would/could you do that to/for me?????????? we had are first 3 sum this way........ ./.
     
  5. mrcock

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    seems to me, it has to be a part of a personality

    :lol
     
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    I was brought up to be courteous and respectful toward women so it is not in my nature to get really forceful and overly aggressive in the bedroom. I have also been a gym rat for some years trying to keep my fat ass in reasonable condition so do carry some muscle on my bones - and at nearly double my wife's body weight/being vastly stronger I have always been careful not to get too rough so as not to hurt her. I prefer long drawn out foreplay with slow, deliberate cunnilingus to get her smoking hot before sliding my cock deep inside her - varying the pace and tempo, alternating long slow strokes with short and fast with lots of bumping and grinding as I ride her through as many orgasms as she can take before I finish.

    Although my wife typically prefers lovemaking in this slow, deliberate, almost Tantric fashion she also likes to mix it up. The first time I never saw it coming as she engaged in a stealth campaign - waking me up in the morning with her lips wrapped around my cock tormenting me to incredible hardness then suddenly remarking that the alarm must not have been set properly and I barely had enough time to get ready to make it to work on time so there was no time to "finish" me off. By the time I got off work I was definitely ready to tear off a piece but when I got home she had taken the kids to see her sister and by the time she returned and we got the kids showered and packaged off to bed there was no time for loving. She had a dentist's appointment the next morning and then had to stay late at work herself to make up the time so another day down the drain.

    Every day she would get me as hard as a pipe but there was always a phone call from her mother or her sister, a trip to the store,etc. or someone stopping by so there was never an opportunity to be intimate. She particularly delighted in going into the bedroom or laundry room and would rub herself until the juices were flowing and then come out to find me and rub her pussy juices all through my mustache bemoaning the fact that we had not had sex in a while and how much she wanted to get it on as soon as we had an opportunity. And although I was not aware of it at the time she made damn sure that there was always something going on that prevented us from getting it on.

    By the end of the week I was almost crazy with need and I found myself getting hard just watching her bend over to pick up something off the floor. I finally broke about ten days in when I was watching her licking her lips after eating a small bowl of ice cream - Kids were still up but I was at the end of my endurance and just could not take it any more. I quickly jumped up and fixed a death grip on her fore arm and all but dragged her down the hall and into the half bathroom (which was as far away from where the kids were playing as I could get). After locking the door I quickly pulled her slacks and panties off and just shucking my pants and briefs down picked her up and impaled her on my cock. She was so hot I could smell her arousal and her pussy felt like liquid velvet tightly stretched around my cock. I took her standing face to face and her feet never touched the floor until until I was done - I had her by the hips pounding her up and down on my cock and she just held on for dear life until I exploded. It was terribly hurried and over way too fast to even begin to satisfy either of us but one of the kids called out and we had to call a halt to the activities.

    Throughout this whole afternoon's event we had never said a word to each other but through eye contact and my expressions my wife knew I was not to be stopped any longer. As soon as we got the kids off to bed and asleep I dragged her off to the bedroom and simply ravaged her. She had been without just as long as I had (and was not able to get off earlier in the bathroom) and the scent of her arousal pervaded the entire room. I did not care that I had shot off in her earlier and dragged her over to the corner of the bed and just buried my face in her. There was nothing gentle about any of it and I gorged myself on her delightful pussy, sucking and slobbering like a starving man eating a watermelon. She playfully resisted and attempted to get away and barely managed to roll over - when she rose up onto her hands and knees I pulled her directly onto my cock and proceeded to fuck her almost senseless - just could not get enough of her. She dropped her shoulders to the bed and totally opened herself to me as I took her with long powerful strokes. She met me stroke for stroke - driving her hips back with every thrust - fingers frantically rubbing her clit - her face buried in a pillow screaming out as she hit peak after peak until I exploded inside her once again.

    Definitely one of our more memorable experiences and my lovely wife continues to bring out the "animal" in me as it suits her - variety definitely adds spice. Perhaps something like this would work?
     
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    I think it has alot to do with timing of wants and needs, specially in a marriage. You build this respect barrier and its hard to crossover. Few years back my wife went threw something were she was a fucking animal in bed.. Sometimes i thought to myself, holy shit this crazy bitch wants to fight not fuck!!!! But at the time i wasn't feeling it. Dont get me wrong every man loves a wild woman in bed, but this was something different and something we had never done.

    So a few years later our wants and needs have totally changed, she has hit a kinda low in her wild side and i have become the person she wanted a few years back. A Stranger in bed!
    I hope at some point our wants and needs will collide like the Titanic!!!!
     
  8. wetness1

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    Put him in a cage ?
     
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    its taken years to get redic to the point he's at now, where he'll be "rough" with me. i love it when he takes control, issues orders, grabs me by my hair and forces my mouth to fuck him.... when he grabs me by the hips and throws me where he wants me.... when he smacks my ass till its red and tingley, pinching and groping my tits... I love it all. I would love it more often, but he's not entirely comfortable with the idea, so when I DO get it, its all the more hot! The first time he did it... I was wearing some outfit that came with nylon topped stockings, something that he apparently gets super turned on by. Now, when I want it... I show him I do by wearing the fishnet body stockings. There's nothing sexier than when he rips it to shreds while I'm wearing it....

    Ah crap, now I'm turned on again :brow
     
  10. Northside

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    Everybody wants what they can't have. I take a lot of trips without my girlfriend. When I get home it's like, well, have you ever seen films of tigers mating? It's a little on the wild side.
     
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    Think about what you mean by ravish and so on, and instruct your husband to do it. "Ravish" might not mean anything to him. He might need to be told something specific. "C'mon harder!" "Hold me down!" and so on. Grapple with him to show him how you want him to grapple with you. Get your leg around him and kick him from behind to spur him on. Grunt and groan and shout. Be an animal yourself if you want him to be one.

    When I started wanting this kind of thing with the boyfriend, he didn't want to do it. He thought it was silly and dramatic. I felt disappointed. Then I went to him wearing some clothes that were worn and thin and said, "We're not having sex until you tear these clothes off me." He did it. So then he knew what it felt like to do it and he understood. Another thing I've done is stand in the middle of the room with my hands on my hips and say, "You want me on the bed? Well how are you going to get me there?" Or when we're somewhere else in the house: "Fuck me. Right here, right now." Or "Grab me." He seems to like the word grab. Also, sex in the woods seems to bring out the animal in him.

    As for your boyfriend, when you talk with him and cyber with him and so on, use scenarios that show him what you want, what would be acceptable, and what you wouldn't consider impolite.
     
  12. Anotherday

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    I don't know for sure, but the best thing the two of you can do is to talk about some fantasies and let that bring it up. What a man has to understand about things like this is that providing a fantasy is one of the most intimate things two people can share.

    Once I understood that, and that what ever we did within agreed upon limits was not only something the wife was willing to accept but something she really wanted from me it was on. It's kind of hard for a man to wrap his head around the idea of playing ruff, dominating, and in our case giving degrees of pain can be such a loving and intimate experience for both of you.

    But, if they can wrap their heads around it, it's liberating for both involved if that's what they desire to have.
     
  13. CurvedUp

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    That for me is close to crossing the line. Never really thought about doing that. See coming on her face as a violation. I guess if we talked about it and she wanted to explore that I would, but we would have to talk a lot about just what she was looking for. If it was about being taken, yet she wanted my love in that. Explain the need for it. See most men want to be soft and gentle. When woman talk about hard and forceful we then think where is the line that we can not cross. I would stop at that line she would make. Then sex at the point is done. Cause at that point making love is out the window.
     
  14. htoad

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    This is a tough question. A lot of folks are surprised at how many men really feel uncomfortable "ravishing" their willing wife/gf. For me seeing how frequently women still get objectified against their will in today's society doesn't it make it easy to take that into the bedroom with someone you love. It has taken years for me to get to a level of comfort ravishing my wife, and she still has to encourage me to keep doing those things to her. In our case we have turned it into a "game" where if she does something to something of mine she gets "punished" anyway I chose.

    So I'm afraid I don't see an easy answer, it depends so much on one's relationship, applying patience, and hoping for the best.
     
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    I too came from the school that most women prefer to be treated lovingly and with respect. I had to be broken of this and learn that some women want a very animalistic pounding.

    A partner once confided in me that she wanted me to fuck her hard from behind, slapping her ass and pulling her hair, while telling her what a slut, etc, she was. Well, though not my style, I could certainly relate to a sound doggy pounding, with ass slapping, but I was very sensitive to the hair pulling and the verbal stuff. I had been abused by hair pulling and verbal abuse as a child.

    Although a bit reluctant, I agreed to try. As i was pounding her from behind and smacking her ass, I became aware that she was more turned on than usual. So, I took it up a notch. I pulled her hair and started saying all kinds of dirty stuff. She got even hotter. She reached up and tugged my wrist, signalling me to pull harder, so I did. Damn. She was creaming all over me.

    As I got close, I pulled out and knelt in front of her. I grabbed her hair and pulled her face up to my cock. I told her to lick me clean and suck me off. She licked off my cock and then swallowed me to my balls in one fell swoop. I came really hard with her lips against my balls, her tongue against my vein and my head in her throat. Needless to say, she told me that we needed to do that more often. Who am I to complain? If it made her that hot, it worked for me.

    How's that sound Barb? Maybe you should look me up if you're ever out my way *wink*

    xx
     
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    All youd have to do is ask. Then id sneak up on you and bang the pants off you.
    but thats me. Have you tried begging for it during sex? Scream out what you want,it works for me
     
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    I can only recommend that if you know his triggers play on them. I hold back with my wife most times..but recently she expressed a desire to be taken..so I tried it and we.both enjoyed it. She was vocal during it and it spurred me on....round 2 soon.