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  1. whyme21

    whyme21 New Member

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    ok im 21yrl i broke up with my gf 2 months ago but i got new gf 1 week ago we tryed to have sex but i just couldn't get it up not feeling it at all not horney no mmatter what she does didn't know what was wrong i do kissing on neck brest all of that and she really get horney and wet but me nathing like she is not there maybe she needs to kiss me on the neck :lol ok second night we got it on again i i make her realy horney my penis is 20% hard and fading lol it just won't come so after lil bit it got obout 60% hard so we decide to do it but while doing it it went dead wtf is this i cant get it up no mather what if i watch porno movies its hard in 20 sec with her nathing she is beatifull girl nathing wrong with her i just cant get horney with her what does this mean and how do i fix it anyone any advice plz need help help me heve sex again :D o btw she dont do nathing to make me horney i do all to her maybe thats why? but i want other ppl opinion
     
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    I have to say, it seems from your posting that you are putting way too much emphasis on penatrative sex, way too early.That pressure can make many men fail to rise to the occasion and then it gets worse as it's all in the mind.

    And I guess from what you say, that your new girlfriend might lack some experience which adds to the problem.

    What I suggest is that you both take a step back to take the pressure off.
    Next time you get intimate, take intercourse off the menu. Simply engage in some very relaxed and sexy foreplay. Give each other a massage. Let her massage you all over so that she can see how your body best responds. And give positive feedback as to which bits you like her doing best and vice versa.

    That way both of you can learn to be totally relaxed in an intimate way before doing the full sex thing.

    If you slow things down a bit this way I think your problem will soon solve itself.
     
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    the problem i think is her bc i get her really horney she want's to do it bc i massage her kiss-lick on neck u know all over her body then she gets really horney and wants to do it but she don't return the favor so maybe that's what's causing the problem tx for advice i appreciate we will take it slowly and see what happens


    il write back if anything happens good or bad
     
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    take time and take it easy. if you don't get horny, then just make her feel good. she'll orgasm and you are okay with it because you weren't horny anyway.
     
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    How can you distinguish between being excited and being nervous?

    Trust is an important part of a relationship. My erections are sometimes slowed by trust issues. Trust takes some time.

    Try breathing deeply, and calming any anxiety, and let the excitement come through.

    Sometimes not getting hard as soon as you expect, may make you nervous, then it takes longer, and you get mroe nervous, like a spiral.

    Just groove with it the best you can. Can your GF come if you finger her? Does she get offended if you pump yourself a little?

    Blessings
     
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    From a female point of view, it sounds like this relationship is a one way street. If you are doing everything to get her horny, and she's not returning the favor, then you may be subconciously having issues with her that are preventing you from getting an erection. Communicate with her. Then try again. One week is a short time to get to know someone, maybe you just need to slow it down?
    And I totally agree with Logger...
    the harder you try to get hard, the harder it is to get hard...
    that holds true for most aspects of sex.
    Good luck!
     
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    Rose Resident Sexy Grandma
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    I agree with PK - and I was thinking that perhaps your new GF does not know how to return your foreplay. She may be inexperienced and is assuming the girl is just supposed to lay there. If you are up to it, try 'coaching' her a bit. Ask her to do this, or do that.... She may be shy at first, so be patient, and even show her. Your kindness may pay off in BIG dividends!;)
     
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