Need help - girl on top

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  1. Scarlet

    Scarlet New Member

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    I've had very little sex before my boyfriend now and as I've never done it before, I am very bad at going on top. I've tried looking online and reading things but I can't find anything much to help me, it just says what to do and then they expect you to know and be able to do everything after that.

    I know the deal, obviously you get on top over the guy and put him inside you, and I can move about to find a position where it feels really nice but I just don't get what to do after that. He's tried telling me and moving me about and stuff but I just can't seem to do it properly.

    It's really getting on my nerves because I can't cum any other way (I haven't cum with him at all - or with anyone but myself - even though he's pleasuring me like crazy, I don't know what's up with me) and I want to be able to do it on top to give him a little break, because he's always doing a lot of the work bless him, and I hear loads of places about how it's great the girl going on top, but I haven't quite seen the greatness of it yet!

    Help me please!
     
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    get boy friend to rent or buy some porn dvds watch and learn .cp
     
  3. johnnyangel694u

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    Try getting yourself in a position so you can grind your clit against him. If you can get yourself off like that he will reap the benefits of what your pussy is doing on the inside. If you can't do that trying using a finger on your clit while rocking back and forth. For me that is more of a visual position than feeling good. But my wife is terrible at it.:lol
     
  4. NaughtyKnickers

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    Scarlet, :tup to you for wanting to learn how to better enjoy sex and for recognizing that your man works hard to pleasure you. Sounds like you've got a great attitude about it all. :)

    On top can be interesting before you find a particular angle and motion that works best for your body.
    I'm a sub by nature, so I am not an expert on being on top, but I can offer a few suggestions as I sure enjoy being on top when I do it, and I've learned a few things that work for me that might work for you.

    First off, I think it is easier to learn how to be on top when you have something to hold on to! Whether it be a headboard, or with him sitting and you straddling him on a sofa. Having something to hold on to can make it easier to steady yourself, set and maintain a rhythm.

    I like a few different variations, one being what johnnyangel4u suggested, rocking or tilting your hips in a way that rubs your clit against him, while you're fully down on his cock.

    Another thing I like, is to get up on my feet, so I'm squatting over his cock, and move straight up and down. If he is laying, you can steady yourself by reaching behind you and holding his legs gently, or if you have a headboard, you might like to hold onto it.
    Again, trying this with him sitting on a sofa, you holding the back of it, might not be a bad idea for starters. Going up and down fully that way feels wonderful; you may or may not climax that way, though, that again depends on your bodies. Just enjoy yourself, and find a nice easy rhythm. At some point, he, or you can rub your clit as you do this, and that feels just amazing! :p Many women who don't cum from intercourse alone climax with no trouble at all when having intercourse and clitoral stimulation like this.

    Also, stop and think of the visual image that on top position offers him! ::drool Your pussy sliding up and down his cock, your legs spread open to him, your clit being touched, a full frontal of your body, your face, your breasts; all for him to enjoy watching, touching, feeling. Not a bad thing for him either, huh! :p
    I'm sure he'll be more than happy to be patient as you get the hang of it. ;)

    Best wishes, keep us posted! ;)
     
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    Obviously you need a lot of help, And with just one post its hard
    to give a good answer, But here goes.
    You know to get on your knees, Not lay , Then put him in you, From here their is a lot of things you can do, lean forwards and kiss him if you can, or just let your Brest
    touch his chest. Still on your knees I hope with your knees bent enough to
    get as much of Him in you as you can. If you can make your clit touch Him
    do it. Then you can rock back and forth on Him causing His cock to go in and our
    of you. And causing your clit to rub against him. You can also use a circular motion
    or gyration. This will cause His cock to move around inside of you. And is really a good position to stimulate your clit.

    Also you can raise your body straight up and sort of bounce up and down
    again bringing your clit into contact with Him.
    Try everything you can to find the position and motion that feels best
    to you and Him.

    Hiker
     
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    Our posts went in at the same time Naughty, Sorry.

    We will have to try that sometimes.

    Hiker
     
  7. NaughtyKnickers

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    I agree, Hiker. :dgrin


    Fill in the blank, "_______ minds think alike." ... :lol ;)
     
  8. Ryan

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    Horny? :cool
     
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    Hey let me take this post over from here, I can handle this.
    I had this exact same problem with my girlfriend although it will take more explaining and I don't have all of the answers I need to help you out,

    Please use the forums if you need to discuss this topic, there is plenty of room to explain here - Ryan
     
  10. cbrmale

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    This one is very visual for a man and very tight too, but in my experience only a few women have the coordination and / or the strength in their legs to do it. When a woman does this, it is awesome, but it doesn't seem to be for every woman.