All my adult life, I've had to have a couple drinks before sex. I used to have high anxiety and needed it to relax. I don't have much anxiety anymore but still need 2 drinks before participating in sex. I thought it was because I was nervous during the first few encounters with someone new, but I've recently hooked up with an old family friend who I am very comfortable with and I still can't enjoy sex without the alcohol. Could it be that it's just a habit for me after all these years? The second best way for me to enjoy sex is to have wake-up sex (no alcohol involved). I love being woke up from a dead sleep with caresses/kisses that lead to sex.