need advice havnt a clue

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  1. cba

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    Been with my fiancee for 6yrs now, and I don't know what's happened me.

    Sometimes I'm so horny for 2 or 3 days and love having sex, then other times I can go without any for up to a month maybe more.

    She hates it so much that I don't have that drive to do it all the time.

    I don't no why but sometimes I just have no interest, and don't even masterbate either.

    Anyone got any ideas of what on earth is going on with me and what I can do about it?
     
  2. skinnyminnie

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    I've been with my bf for over 5 years now and I feel like I'm in the same situation as you. I have the horny phases that last a few days and then I don't want it at all for weeks at a time. I do not have a solution either. My bf hates it. The only thing I can think of is that I have a lot of other activities and hobbies that I am currently interested in that have nothing to do with sex. I am much more interested in work and school and I've been reading novels by the boatload lately. Everything seems more interesting than sex.

    We do not have bad sex either. When we do it, it is fantastic. He is handsome and works out constantly. So his body is amazing. My confidence is extremely high and I have been told that I am pretty and my body is nice. So it's not a physical thing. I just figure my sex drive is fickle, like my personality. lol I tend to get bored easily and I am extremely moody. I wish I had a solution because it upsets him but as for me, I am totally fine with it. I just wish I could please him more often without forcing myself.
     
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    I'm just taking a stab in the dark here but it could be due to age ...

    Men's testosterone starts to drop in their late 20's and severely drops by age 40. It's not the end of the world if that's the case. From what I hear, there are tons of treatments out there for low T and E.D. I would just go ask a doctor because when testosterone drops, so does sex drive.
     
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    See the weird thing is I love to masterbate, and I do have her attractive so its not that. So I'm not sure what it is. I get like I just don't want to bother having sex. It's now been almost 3 weeks since the last time and I've no desire at all to have sex.

    But I do get horny and do like to look at porn.

    Really don't no what to do as I'd love to be able to have that drive to have sex as much as she does. Cause I know it must be very hard for her when she is cuddling up to me and I'm not in the mood and don't want it.

    Any more thoughts?

    Also I think we have done everything I can think of apart from anal, which I would like to try with her, but it really isn't a thing I'd ever push as when I've spoke about it before she said she'd rather not which I don't mind.
     
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  5. skinnyminnie

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    Is there someone else that you may possibly want to be with?
     
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    Nope no one at all.
     
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    Taking any new supplements? Something that maybe is messing with your testosterone levels?
     
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    Bring'r this way, I'm currently in need of feminine attention, and she seems to need some masculine attention. We can go have fun and everyone's happy.
     
  9. skinnyminnie

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    You probably just have a lower sex drive than her. I don't think this is a problem, if she can come to grips with that. If that is the biggest problem in your relationship, I don't think you have too much to worry about. That is if you both can understand it and make it work.
     
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    Nope no New supplements that I can think of.

    Just wish I wanted sex more, not often you hear a male saying this, generally its I can't get enough of it.
     
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    That's what's confusing, ...the fluctuations in your drive. That's why I thought it may be something your taking.
     
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    Maybe you're not getting enough exercise. Have you gained/lose weight within those six years?
     
  13. cba

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    Weight goes up and down all the time but not by much only 3-5kgs maybe.