[Ask a Girl] My woman watching lesbian porn

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  1. rescuer

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    Hi ladies,I need your opinion Please!
    I just found out again that my woman has been watching alot of lesbian porn.Is this some kind of sign that she wants sex with another woman?The first time when I found out about it,I asked her about it and she tells me how it turns her on,but she doesn't want to be with a woman.Some how I just don't believe her.There got to be some kind of desire there that she wants sex with another woman,because that's the only kind she watches.I wouldn't have a problem with her having sex with another woman if that is something she wants and I have told her.
     
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    Unless she played softball in high school, you should be ok.

    She's not "your woman", you don't own here.

    Now that we've gotten past that, I'm not sure what you can do. If she's gay/curious she will need to tell you on her terms, not yours.

    Maybe she's trying to learn her body.
     
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    Yes, I think the "my woman" is the tipoff. She might like porn where the partners are equal and they show each other respect because there isn't really any difference between them. Look at the lessons behind the porn she chooses to watch. What are the roles? Mutual exploration perhaps, more than ownership.

    Oh, and BTW, believe your woman partner. It's good for a relationship.
     
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    Not a girl, but my two cents is to not make a big deal about it.

    My wife enjoys different genres of porn (mostly written) and shares quite a few fantasies with me. Just because the thought, the sight of something turns her on doesn't necessarily mean she's seeking to live those fantasies out.
     
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    I agree with what Meee said.
     
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    Hey rescue, not a girl either but wishing to respond anyway. First of all be a little more careful with your written words because women pick up on nuances that may not be intentional.
    Frankly regarding your partner I would not be concerned and in your place would love to watch with her. There is so much us dudes can learn from looking at woman on woman stuff and if that turns her on then do those same things to her and see how it goes ;)
    Ps: in future call your partner "my lover" and the ladies here will be more friendly. :)
     
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    That is more common than u think. Mostly because i dont think women dont want to admit it because of reactions lkke yours. I dont see how it would even be offensive to you. Would you rather have her fantsizimg about huge cocked meat heads plowing her?
     
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    The reason I said my woman,is because she is my wife.Maybe I should have said my wife.Sorry ladies didn't mean no harm.Hope you all forgive me.
     
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    This topic came up before and back then I said I had read about women's porn preferences in various articles, and there is a large preference among many completely heterosexual women for lesbian porn. Unfortunately, I can't remember all the reasons for it, but most of the women had no attractions to or interest in women in real life. My conclusion then would be that it is just fantasy material. We all have fantasies that we have no real interest in carrying out. It creates great masturbation material but that is where it ends. Personally, I would not worry about it at this point unless there are signs that she is attracted to women out in public, but even then that may just be passing thoughts. My thought would be that if she does find certain women out in public attractive that it doesn't necessarily mean she wants to have sex with them. I would not find it weird at all if a woman thought other women were attractive but was at the same time completely satisfied with having a husband and sticking with that.

    Regarding the "my woman" thing, perhaps I am in the minority, but I don't find that to be off putting. I feel like when people say that they are not implying real ownership. I sometimes say "my man" in reference to my husband, and when I do that it's like I am pointing out to myself that he's this hot MAN who is completely and intriguingly different from me but yet perfectly complementary to me. I would only think it odd if you referred to her as "my woman" on a regular basis but then that would only be because it is more conventional to say "my girlfriend" or "my wife". Does it bother her or anyone in your circle of influence? If not, I would not worry about that either, but it would be a good term to avoid in formal settings I would think.
     
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    Sorry I'm a guy but have to respond. Dude go with it..... Trust me on this. Let her watch the girl on girl porn. Feel lucky that she even likes to watch porn. Just make sure your talking with her about it and ask what she likes while you are getting it on. Like I said earlier just go with it and have fun. She is your wife so it's ok.
     
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    I want to thank everyone who responded to my question.I have come to a conclussion to just go with it and not say anything to her and whether she are having feeling to be with a woman in real life,but still if she does,I think that I will still be ok with it,But for now,I'm just gonna leave things as is.
    Thanks everyone.
     
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    There is no reason to explain your use of "my woman", some people take things too far.
    If the term "my wife" is acceptable then there is nothing wrong with "my woman", you don't own your wife either but no one bitches about that.

    Some people like to seem intelligent by trying to correct the use of common sense terms.

    By the way "my girlfriend" likes lesbian porn. She said she wouldn't mind another woman going down on her, but she doesn't want to reciprocate.
     
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    No dudes there is a Big difference between Our World as we interpret it and the one Venus folks do.
    Accept and be happy is all :)
     
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    Is it just a man/woman thing, or am I the only person here that would TOTALLY act out any spank bank fantasy if given the green light by my frau?

    What I mean is: if I spank to it, I would be willing to do it in real life. that being said, I don't spank to overlay elaborate scenarios
    (ie. watching other guys do my wife)

    I guess the reason I'm asking, and the reason I'm bringing it up is this: should I interpret my wife's fantasies as suggestions that she wants to experiment with women (she's had sex with at least one woman before we got together and has had nothing bad to say aabout it).
     
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    Sorry, I was not done...

    So, should I interpret my wife's fantasies about her favorite porn star and stripper as suggestions we should "expand our fantasy horizons". Or should I leave them alone and let her jack off to them at her leisure. Before we go a step further, I know we are going to get a flood of "just ask her" suggestions. Believe me, I have 'just asked' her. She creates fantasies I am supposed to know about way before they are created. It certainly seems like there's a girl-on-girl fantasy in her head, but i want to know if she really plays them out in her head.
     
  16. sandwich

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    You pose some interesting questions. In regard to the first one, I would say that there are both types on is forum....those who would carry out any and all their fantasies given the opportunity and those who leave many of their fantasies in fantasy land. I fall into the latter category because while it is fun to fantasize about sex with multiple men I have zero interest in really doing that. It seems I prefer monogamy as does my husband.

    Regarding your question about approaching your wife....I am not sure how to answer since I only have experience in asking my husband to engage in fantasies that are monogamous (sex in strange places, role playing, etc.), and these were easy things to ask about. My first thought would be to ask you if you have ever asked her to engage in a fantasy of yours in the past? Has she ever asked you to engage in one of hers in the past? If your answer is yes to either question, how did it go?

    I don't quite get all of your last paragraph. You seem to not want us to say "just ask her". Am I reading correctly that your wife has some expectation that you figure out her fantasies without her having to tell you what they are? So then are you perceiving that she just wants you to go with it without asking her about it? If that's what you are saying that would be hard to pull off because fantasies involving other people take planning. Perhaps she is just intrigued by verbalizing it all. Who knows. Maybe someone else can answer better.
     
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    And your problem is-----.
    I hope you are not the controlling male and your wife
    needs some time to herself enjoying a fantasy of hers !!!
    Strange you say you don't believe her ?????
    I'm pretty sure if she wants to involve you in her watching
    girly porn,she will let you know,yes?
    But, maybe she is learning some new erotic techniques to try with
    her friends and girl friends !!!!!
    LOL, Ha, Girls will be Girls, lol.
     
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    yes, its ok for your wife to watch 2 girls or lesbians getting off, ya never know it may help you
     
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    My wife seems to really get turned on watching two women enjoying each other but she says she has no interest in doing it herself. I would love to watch another woman pleasure her to orgasm...
     
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    I would be turned on,If my wife was in to watching lesbian porn. Nothing wrong with it. I get turned on by 2 women getting it on anyway. Once in a while we may be out,And see a pretty woman,She will say to me, She is so hot, I would do her,But ofcourse that is as far as it would go. Just enough to catch me off guard and tease my cock,Making me think of the posabilities.