My wife won't accept that i like to be pleasured anally and wants divorce.

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    Hi all,

    I have always known that I enjoy the feeling of anal stimulation. So I plucked up the courage to suggest I'd like to get some toys for me, she agreed. So I bought a few anal toys and waited patiently then plucked up the courage to show her what I'd bought. Her reaction wasn't positive and refused to even acknowledge. This sent me underground, and every moment I managed to steal I gave myself the biggest most intense orgasms ever. Until the other night when she caught me.... She screamed at me that she wanted a.divorce as I must be gay, took the toys and threw them in the bin and has made me promise to never do it again or we are over. All I wanted was to involve her in my fantasy now I feel ashamed but cant stop craving it! Is it time to move on and find someone who will share my fantasy??
     
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    Maybe marriage consulting?
    It's okay to have your own fantasies and pleasure yourself it that way, and it's okay for her not to want to participate. Maybe she need to talk to someone to understand, that it's doesn't mean you are gay. It's not unusual for men to enjoy that type of stimulation.
     
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    Well, are you gay? If you are, maybe time to close that chapter in life with her and move on. If not and you just enjoy ass play tell her to chill and help get your rocks off. Sit down, have a discussion and her explain to you why it is wrong to enjoy something with your own body. Some people are into feet. I'm not but have had a lover who got off on toes being sucked. Kinda weird to me, but what do I care. So toe sucking she got. I got whatever I wanted because of it.
     
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    First off bummer that she was that extreme in her response wow! I like anal stimulation but I am not interested in having a man do me. I don't think that enjoying anal play makes you gay.
    I don't think sucking cock would make you gay. Falling in love with another guy would pretty much decide it for me.

    My wife on the other hand thinks a male wanting to get his anus pentrated makes him gay. So go figure.

    I hear of so many people that are no longer having sex with their wives they might as well find another release. I for one need sex in my life or I will go nucking futs.

    I am 56 and wife is 59 we had sex last night for the third time this week. I'm not bragging sometimes we are lucky to get in 3 times a month.
    My wife is not as sexually curious as I am. I figure the day is coming when sex isn't a part of our life so I want to experience all I can now.

    Your in a tough spot you divorce her you can plan on the woman telling everyone you know that you are gay even if your not.
    Hold your desires until she goes away or you go on a trip then go nuts during that period is all I can say.

    Good luck my friend
     
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    Ok, your wife is an insecure and judgemental individual. No, you aren't gay, and those who think you are need to grow up. Straight men, gay men, fat men, skinny men, white, black, red, yellow, purple, fuck ALL men have the ability to have mind blowing orgasms via anal. That magically little button called the Prostate.

    I'm sorry that your wife isn't supportive of your fantasies but what you are into is completely normal and you both should see a marriage/sex therapist as her views on sex are very repressed.

    I wish you luck but perhaps separation isn't a bad option as sexual incompatibility can be a pivotal factor in ending a marriage.
     
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    I don't think it makes you gay to want that. The typical heterosexual experience involves the penis and the vagina, so anything to do with the anus in a male/female situation is on the exotic side. I see you wanting it as no different than me wanting it, although it probably has a somewhat different feeling since we have different anatomy.

    There has to be a way to resolve this without divorcing unless you two have other issues that are threatening your marriage. Maybe there is some info out there that explains how it can feel stimulating when there is no attraction to men. If she could read info about the experience from a physiological point of view it might remove anything that feels threatening to her. It is probably more common than she can imagine.
     
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    Come to think of it if I would cum as fast as I do when my massage therapist strokes my cock and fingers my ass if the wife did me with a strap on I would be pretty much worthless to her as a husband. She would need to find a young stud to take care of my job.
     
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    What do you mean by this, exactly? I don't want to assume one way or another but would love to respond appropriately.
     
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    I would cum really fast no doubt and would be worthless to her. I am 56
    She would need someone else to do her.
     
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    Wanting anal stim does not make you gay or any less loving of your wife but her extreme negative reaction is a worry.
    Nobody is worthless at 56 dude, I am 63 and a real worry to some!
     
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    My point was I don't do the viagra thing so once I have cum I don't get hard 10 minutes later at 56. I used to be able to go 5 times per night not anymore.
     
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    I am in the same boat as you and after hearing your wife's response I'm 99% sure I won't bring it up to my wife. My wife isn't very adventurous when it comes to sex and now I have the urge to try all kinds of things. I will be the first to admit that I was pretty narrow minded when it came to anal play on me, but after my first prostate exam, I was a little shocked at how it felt when she hit a certain spot. It was then that I started attempting to examine this area a little more closely. I found articles online and watched various video and I attempted to massage my own prostate while masturbating. It wasn't easy to do to myself, but I finally managed to milk my own prostate with no masturbation and I couldn't believe how it felt. I would love to share that with here, but it will never happen.
     
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    Honestly, you sound like a jerk. How about caring about your wife instead of pleasuring yourself? Do I need to tell you what a marriage is? Really? It's about two people reaching compromises so both can be happy. If my partner said he didn't like some sexual practice that would be the end of it but then I love and care about someone other than myself.

    This story is so stupid it must be false.
     
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    Gotta be an asshole in every group.
     
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    And an opinionated bellend on every thread.
     
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    don't let my experience put you off! Just perhaps try a different approach than I used. Good luck mate! Lets hope we aten't foomed to being pegged massage parlours!!
     
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