my wife, never played with self....what do you think

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  1. justaniceguy

    justaniceguy Member

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    I spoke to my wife about playing with herself and she said she has never used a dildo on herself and made herself come etc.....The reason we brought this up is that I confessed in wanking sometimes, and she just went up the wall at me saying she was not good enough which is totally untrue.....What do you ladies think....How many woman do play with them selves and how many would tell the TRUTH....
     
  2. Essene

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    I think getting mad that someone masturbates is silly.
     
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    Lol....I'm gonna go out on a limb here and say that 100%of the women on here, masturbate regularly.....
    Looking forward to hearing the responses tho...lol

    My ex told me she never did it....after being together about 20 years , she finally told me the truth....funny.....
     
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    They did an anonymous survey on this in a university where I live, one of those lie tetector thingies. I won't speculate on it working or not, but according to the results about 85% of all students participating had masturbated, and the rest were lying X3.

    Nothing wrong with doing it, and close to everyone DOES do it so... Well, maybe if my area was more religious it wouldn't be so common? I don't know, and honestly I don't care to find out...
     
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    if your wife doesn't like to masturbate,that means she may have difficulty in reaching orgasm

    actually masturbation is quite normal
    maybe she is those type who feels that pleasure from any sexual act is a sin
     
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    She's prolly a little jealous that you can have fun w yourself and she can't. Like luv2sexdotinfo said, maybe she can't orgasm on her own. It'd be nice to help her learn how to until she is comfortable and successful in doing it herself.
     
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    I wanted to get a little more info from you....how long have you been married?
    Where you two having sex before you got married? If so, how long before you got married?
     
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    WEEEEELLLL, I don't masturbate ALL the time, cause there is always some one around to fill my needs. But YES I do sometimes....and I really don't understand why she would lie, so she might be telling the truth, but then again, she might be embarrassed.
     
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    Some people don't realise that even if they don't bring themselves to orgasm, it's still masturbation if they touch their genitals for pleasure.
     
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    I had never, when I got together with DH. Well, let me clarify: I'd never used any toys/foreign objects or stuck anything inside my vagina (including my fingers). I had pleasured myself a little with my fingers, but I was so innocent that I didn't really know if what I did was considered masturbation (and it was never a full orgasm). I now know that it was, pathetic and inexperienced and clumsy, but still considered masturbation. I would have said I didn't though. I was brought up very religious (PK), and in schools that taught "abstinence only", which is the stupidest crock of shit. I guarantee it's the reason so many people would say "no", but fail a lie detector test: they are embarrassed and uncomfortable, and unsure what even qualifies.

    I wonder if she is just insecure and inexperienced, and thinks that your wanking is a reflection on her desirability or performance? I remember being naive and hurt any time I'd found out DH had spanked his own monkey. I thought it meant I wasn't doing my wifely job, or that he didn't really want to have sex with me, or something stupid. Now, it just turns me on to catch him or think about him doing it. Hopefully there's room for growth and change for you and your wife, too.
     
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    It occurred to me that if she is of the opinion that masturbating is sort of like cheating then maybe she would be motivated to lie, but who knows? Did you get a chance to tell her if she did it wouldn't bother you?

    I've seen a variety of different stats on the percentage of women who masturbate, so I have no idea what it really is. I used the word, "vibrator", once in front of a few female friends and no one seemed to want to talk about it. It was a suggestion for a friend who was not in a relationship, and she was saying how much she missed sex. So I can speak only speak for myself, and it's a real regular part of my life.
     
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    I always feel sorry for those women that have those kinds of hang ups about their own sexuality....and how crappy that must be to feel bad about feeling good.
     
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    Hi Friend, I believe its totally your mistake. Its your duty to get her on and enjoy herself. The best toy she can have is your dick. Introduce it to her and teach her the ways she can enjoy with it. Rub your dick all over her erogeneous zones..specially over her face, neck, breasts..under arm..naval...abdomen..inner thighs...feet..and more over on her pubic mould. You can do this while shes on her panties even. Rub and press your dick head on her clit. Touch her ass and rim her anal. Use your fingers and tounge. Let her come with multiple of orgasms. This is the only way she can have multiple orgasms. Make sure not to enter her on this whole process.Wait until you notice her body sings to your music. Let her pussy juices over flows...Finally if you desired you can enter her and ride her until you loss you hardness. So try this without blaming her. You fullfil your duties first, she will naturally respond. Dnt force her but guide her. Even you can have her hand in your hands and guide her all over her sweet places.Good Luck and share your experiences with others.
     
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    been married 3 years but been together for 15 years....she reckons she has never needed to as she always had a man ther!!
     
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    been married 3 years but been together for 15 years....she reckons she has never needed to as she always had a man ther!!
     
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    My husband introduced me to dildos. The first was a vibrating realistic soft skin one. It was about the same size as his own erect penis. Eventually he bought a porn star one called the Kevin Dean and one called the Natural. The Natural is not as big around as the porn star one but is just a little bit longer. The nite he used them on me the first time we were making love and he pulled out and next came one of the two and I was shocked. Then I realized the web cam was turned on and he hadn't told me about this .
     
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    Your wife does it, she's lying if she says no.
     
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    ^^ This...UNLESS it interferes with your sex life.Meaning,you cannot perform sexually and only respond to masturbation.
    But everyone DOES do it at some point or another.It's how we learn about ourselves and our sexuality.
    Unless your wife was raised really religious or something,then she might have some hang ups.
     
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    fapping is FUN! For the ladies it's "flicking the bean"!
     
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    I think Rain said it all. I never had the need to masturbate when I was younger...having sex 5 days out of the week...and some times twice a day, I get where your wife is coming from on always having a man around. If you are having lots of sex with your wife than maybe she doesn't need the realise...most women masturbate because they are extremely horny......pat your self on the back......you must be doing a great job in bed.

    But if you are wanting to watch your wife....then you need to make her feel comfortable enough with herself to let go..........let her know how much it turns you on.....and stroke your in dick while she is doing it to herself........tell her how hot she is.......nothing is more embarrassing than doing something like that and you thinking the whole time your man thinks your weird or disgusting......