My wife is disgusted by me wanting cock.

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  1. fatty2013

    fatty2013 New Member

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    So I don't consider myself fully bisexual, I don't like men nor do i fantasize about men. I do like cock though. I have sucked cock before and loved it and I also love using a vibrator is my ass. My wife though doesn't like the idea at all and won't even consider me having a sexual partner on the side just for cock purposes, she thinks I might leave her. I love her very much and do not want to go behind her back, but the urge for cock is growing so much.
     
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    Well... would you ever consider having a threesome with her and another man? Or would she not be okay with that either?
     
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    She is not ok with that either
     
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    Welcome to the forums.

    You asked your wife permission to open your marriage a bit, and she said no. So you're thinking of giving in to your urge and cheating on her. This would put your wife at a health risk. She won't know that you're putting yourself at risk for picking up a disease, so she won't know that she should practice safe sex with you, get herself tested periodically, and so on.

    The issue here isn't your wife's disgust with homosexual behavior. The issue is her desire to keep all your attentions and not share them, to keep the commitment that you both made. Even if the thought of two men going at it turned her on, that still wouldn’t mean she’d want you to go out and do it. You asked, she said no. You do deserve credit for being honest enough to ask, but she said no. Now the moral decision is up to you. You're an adult--your urges are your responsibility. Dealing with this urge that would be so damaging to your marriage and to this poor woman is a process that you have to face. It might lead to an understanding that you know yourself better now, that you've moved beyond this marriage, and that divorce is the honest outcome for everyone involved. Counseling might be beneficial as you explore this dilemma that you’re in. Including her in some of the counseling might be enlightening for both of you.

    There are some other thoughts that occur to me. What is it that gives you such an urge? Do you like to have your mouth filled? Do you like something up your ass? Your wife with a dildo or even a strap-on could add pleasures to your sex life within your marriage that you never imagined. Or maybe adding gay porn to your sexy-time repertoire. But I don’t want to suggest that you can cure same-sex desires, if that’s really what you’re experiencing--if it‘s really the man you desire and not just his dildo substitute. Maybe other members here who are wiser than I, and have possibly been through this kind of thing, will come along and give you guidance on how to handle this situation. Good luck.
     
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    Thanks Meee
    Ya what I do is is up to me and bringing it up has caused some serious issues. As such her trust in me as gone down. I will not cheat, but she thinks I might. I just like getting peoples opinions on stuff.
     
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    You said this:

    So I replied. If you'd said this:

    I wouldn't have replied.
     
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    sorry i am a horrible communicator.
     
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    Sorry if it offends you but that does sound bisexual.
     
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    As an openly bi-sexual guy I can tell you that my ex-wife wasn't really into it either until we started swinging and one night out of the blue while we both were on sexual highs she watched me suck the guy off her was just inside her. It all happened so fast and at least for her it was a turn on. So why am I telling you this? Because perhaps watching some light weight bi-sexual movies online with her might allow her to explore the idea on her own. Just don't push it, don't cheat, don't lie, and above all else openly talk to your wife about your feelings and desires. Hope it works out for you!