My wife deosn't care for "doggie style"

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  1. Lovingmywife

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    I really enjoy doggie style, but my wife doesn't like it at all. She says it actually hurts her. I am by no means large, 5-6" so I doubt that is it.. She says it hurts as I am about 2-3" into her. We have never done it this way more than 2-3 minutes at a time and she says its just too uncomfortable.. Weird thing is, her favorite position is reverse cowboy, which is about the same position(in theory, I understand the angles aren't quite the same)...

    Any help with this issue would be greatly appreciated.. I LOVE making love to her any other way, but she has a large ass, and I would love to hold onto her hips and watch her ass bounce as I hit it from behind.. I really want to make this good for both of us, so I don't do it since it hurts her.

    HELP!!!!:(
     
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    Doggy can hurt me, and my husband is around the same size you are.....If she says it hurts her, you'd better take her at face value. Maybe try more lube, and being very careful. I know hubby can't just pound away on me in doggy or it really hurts! Sometimes, it can feel as though the wind is being knocked out of me! So, if she's saying doggy hurts her, it does. And, let me be the first to say that RC and D are not the same, nor do they feel the same....Doggy allows for much deeper penetration. I just can't take that most of the time.
     
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    Thanks for the reply.... I do take her at face value and I stop whenever she says it hurts, and I have always taken it slow. Apparently D.S. isn't right for us, which is fine with me, I just wanted to try something different.. Thanks again for your reply!:)
     
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    i again understand what she is saying. sometimes it feels like my SO is pounding away in my belly button. and other times i enjoy it. we dont do d.s. very often for that reason. try diffrent heights of her ass. sometimes just moving an inch or so can make all the diffrence.
     
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    It's not my favorite position either, I'm afraid. My SO is also about the same size as you and he can "bottom" me out in this position, which usually hurts unless I'm extremely aroused. Fortunately, the doggy position is such a turn on for him that he usually finishes quickly.

    Most men tend to enjoy doggy, and I'd even say that most of them would consider it to be their favorite position. It's always seemed very dismissive to me in a, "turn over, bitch,..your face does not interest me" kind of way. Although, I'm sure that's not the way they feel about it. :)
     
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    Like the other ladies here, I've sometimes experienced pain and discomfort in the doggie position. You get very deep penetration, which can lead to pummeling of the cervix (not fun) and uncomfortable internal pressure. I've always found that I have to be really turned on (the greater the arousal, the more accommodating the vagina), and, er, how to put it politely...100% bloat-free...to do it doggie style.

    I don't suppose your wife has any G.I. issues such as Irritable Bowel Syndrome or Crohn's? If it's a matter of internal pressure, that's something that would have to be addressed before she could have comfortable doggie sex. If it's a matter of hitting her cervix, you could maybe try shallow thrusting, or use a cock ring to mark off a comfortable "stopping point" on your penis. And remember, arousal is key. Interacting with your lover during doggie is a good way to maintain her interest...bend over and kiss her back, use your hands to stroke her body, maybe try using a clit vibrator. If she's into anal stimulation, you could massage her anus or use a lubed finger or toy for penetration.

    Another thought: something like a Liberator wedge, or using pillows to prop her up, might help with the comfort factor.

    I hope the two of you are able to get it to work for you. Good luck and keep us updated!
     
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    I can see it now... "Waiter, no pasta or bread for the young lady.... I need her bloat free for what we have planned later!"

    All kidding aside... I once dated a girl who was 501 (I'm 604) and we had this same problem. Only thing, she didn't say anything and I kept wondering why it felt a little odd in there. (Was hitting her cervix).

    We had an open conversation about it and she laid it all out, including how she "took the pain" to make me happy. To make a long story short... There are a whole bunch of damn sexy things you can do besides doggie!
     
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    doggy provide one of deep pentration of cock as possible

    it would also be boing if one only used doggy
     
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    My wife loves doggie-style, my balls slap against her clitoris...I can definitely bottom her out though if I'm not careful. I believe we have most commonly done doggie-style for the "2nd helping"...a 2nd orgasm/ejaculation can take me quite a while, and from behind I have plenty of leverage to thrust, twist, and wiggle things around at will. :brow

    BD
     
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    The thread title: "My wife deosn't care for "doggie style""

    If you want me to bother to respond ... you will use spell-check.

    It's DOESN'T not deosn't... *grumbles*
     
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    My SO enjoys doggy, but its very uncomfortable for me. Something that helped us is a sex ball, he is just the right height that he can kneel behind me when I bend over that and while it still doesn't "do" much for me, it makes it far more comfortable. :) As for RC, completely different for the female. Hope this helps! :)
     
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    I'm not sure I can offer anything but go slower maybe and trust only half in. Maybe as others mentioned try some lube. Luckily my mrs loves doggy and I'm larger then average
     
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    Glad that drives someone else bonkers!
     
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    I enjoy doggy style with my SO, but his dick gets so stiff that it sometimes feels like he's going to poke right through! :ugh There are two approaches that help us with this issue: 1. him leaning over me, which causes his dick to be at more of a horizontal angle (and thus not poking me uncomfortably)--of course though, this takes away from the view and honestly doesn't feel as sexy (at least to me...unless he's nibbling on my neck!). So I prefer 2. moving closer to a wall and using it to raise up my front half. He's still got the view, I can now push back with more umph, and no odd poking! Buena suerte!
     
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    That sucks...that is one of my fav's...
     
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    double posted...

    My apologies
     
    #16 Lovingmywife, Mar 26, 2008
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    Then why did you bother??? :eyes You wasted your time and mine. I was not aware being a spelling and grammar expert was a prerequisite to post on this site. My apologies for offending you. However, Thank you for the spelling lesson.. As if I wasn't aware that I had mistyped...

    Everyone makes mistakes.. No matter how perfect we think we are..

    To everyone else.. Thank you for your replies. I really appreciate it. We may try some of the advice, but we will more than likely stick to what works.... :) Unfortunately with my hours and a 3mo old we haven't found much time to try ANYTHING.. Just a quickie here and there..
     
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    I think your analogy is accurate comparing reverse cowboy to doggie but the one difference is she can control the level of penetration on reverse cowboy and typically the man controls the level of penetration on doggie.

    Maybe you could, slow and carefully enter her 1/2 from there and instead of you thrusting she can fuck you. You could even make a sex game out of it. Maybe you could be stapped/tied restrained to a wall or post or something. She could in theory by adjusting her leg hip position find a vector more comfortable for her.

    For example, in standing doggie a woman can cross her legs, where her right foot is on left side and vice versa with you 1/2 way in slightly reduce the width of the opening so that there is more friction on the sides and rock her hips back and forth but you as a guy have to be disciplined enough to not thrust forward. Possibly putting your hands on her bottom (as if pushing it away) as an moniker may work for some people.

    Also if your turn your feet out, say at 70 degrees angles you can't thrust forward as hard if you do thrust forward. I think the propensity may exist for a guy really turned on to be over zealous and almost charge forward with his body and if the feet are turned 45 or less alot more momentum can be gained. By turning the feet out it is more difficult to thrust as hard.

    If you are taller than her if she is standing at the foot of the bed and you put one leg up, cocked on the bed with your foot turned out (away from her) and the other on the floor you can change the vector of the thrust so that is isn't so straight in or linear. Instead you could move in than up than back than down than in. The orbit becomes somewhat elliptical, a small elliptical orbit with more pressure on up and back than on in. Having done this myself before, from a guys point of view it feels really nice because I scrape the head along her roof while moving back so that the backward motion feels much better than the in motion. As a general idea if you are "smacking" her bottom you are too linear for that technique. Thrusting may be hard because that is what feels the best (as opposed to withdrawing) but if you can lift and slide out it feels really good going out which may remove the need to thrust as hard.

    Lastly if she if flat on the bed with her legs together if you straddle her you can find a comfortable level of penetration and grind. The big thing though it is a grinding position instead of a thrusting penetration. The two things about this position is that your ball will be rested against her thighs and will get a massage on her smooth skin...for her if you use sex toys, if she has a clit massager or vibe she can, because you are only grinding put on her clit (which wouldn't work if you were thrusting). If you are watching porn or reading erotica or something where you are viewing a screen it is nice because you can just rock (as opposed to thrust) and get a lot of friction with both of you in natural positions until one or both of you get off or are turned on so much you want to switch for a more physical position.

    I articulated the post this way because at 2-3 inches I am guessing it isn't the dept as much as the force, so if I am wrong on my guess forgive me.
     
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    I have never found doggy style particularly comfortable either- not painful, as such, just not at all enjoyable. Then I had sex about a month ago and we did it as you described above- it made all the difference, he said it felt great and I didn't feel like my cervix was being prodded with a broom handle! I think it did help though that we had alot of foreplay and I was very aroused and really wet before he entered me.