What can I do? I've just joined and here's why: Firstly, my wife's sex drive changed about 2 years ago. From very high to almost nothing. Secondly she has become very very shy. She allows me to do almost nothing....only about 2 positions, and I'm not allowed to go down on her. I really love doing all sorts of things for and to her, I love to se her have pleasure, but honestly, it's just not doing it for me anymore...It's been going on for about 2 years now and I am getting frustrated....the few times we do it, leaves me very unfulfilled. I just want thigns to be the way they were....for her to want me and for our sex life to be marginally interesting...you know? Right now it's about once every month or two months, and try as I might, it's almost never longer than 15-20 minutes due to her shyness..... What do I do? I have tried doing all sorts of nice things for her (non-sexual things) Ihelp out around the house a lot, I have tried coaxing her into things in the bedroom, try being more commanding....nothing. Any advice?