Why do we make the two the same thing . IMO they are very different things even in a long term relationship there is sex and there is making love . Girls do you think if your man has sex with someone else he will fall in love and leave you ? Guys do you think if your gal has sex with another dude she is going to fall madly in love with him and ditch you ? If I have learned nothing from SF it's that you girls are more looking for a guy you can count on and have a connection with than a 13 inch cock and a six pack.