My Sex Life Problem with girlfriend

Discussion in 'Sex and Relationships' started by Munch, Sep 27, 2006.

  1. Munch

    Munch New Member

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    Hello guys, It's time for me to ask for opinion in this forum and im glad i found it.
    I been with my gf for about 2years more and been having sex, the thing is lately about 4 months many times she reject to have sex and always give reason whether it's reasonable or not, im confuse and i want to find out why but she never tell she said not in mood and sleepy (lie) etc.

    Does this problem about me? maybe i can't satisfy her? coz sometimes during sex she ask me to stop and she doesn't seem to enjoy, it's horrible my sex life it's like only once in two days sometimes once in three days. I like to go down on her and she seems to enjoy it but she doesn't want me to do it often it's only like 3 times a month :(.

    Can anyone throw an idea how to solve this problem? or she just have no interest in sex at all? sometimes i think that way, she doesnt want to watch porn,etc,etc

    Thanks in advance guys
     
  2. cbrmale

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    There is possibly one cause, and one solution. The cause could be the non-sexual parts of your relationship are not satisfying her, and the solution is to rectify this. My experience is that if a woman stays really hot for a guy, then she won't suddenly become sexually dismissive.

    Women love romance. Hug her, kiss her, whisper in her ear how much you love her, take her out to dinner or the movies, buy her flowers. See if that works.

    On the other hand, you could always talk about it.

    Having said that, once every two or three days is average for me and my wife, and I don't think she would want it any more frequently. Sometimes the anticipation of the next intimate encounter makes it more worthwhile. In terms of not wanting you to go on her, well I haven't met a woman (and I've met quite a few) who didn't want that! I suspect you are not satisfying her orally.

    Oral sex needs to be systematic, you need to know what you are going to start with and how you are going to follow you partners lead to bring her to orgasm. All women are different, and a man needs to read a woman's signs for where to touch, how fast, how hard and so on to bring her to satisfaction. Again, some communication between the two of you so that you ask her to show you may help in this area.

    The combination of explicit communication and general romance should do the trick.
     
  3. yorkiesmurf

    yorkiesmurf New Member

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    There are three probable explainations for this but the real expalaintation will only come if you take the time to talk with her outside of the bedroom. The first explaination I can think of is that there is something physical going on with her and she is afraid to share it with you. So she is needlessly worrying about it. Listing all of the possible physical problems would be quite long and really outside the scope of this posting.

    Another explaination is that the relationship, outside of the bedroom, is not meeting her needs. It is quite likely that there is / are relationship issue(s) that need to be addressed.

    Finally something outside of your relationship with her is effecting her. This could be problems at work, friend problems, family problems, or countless other issues.

    The only way to bottom out the issue is to speak with her and discuss your concerns. Otherwise you will be feeling bad and things will go from bad to worse.
     
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    Maybe shes thinking about someone else.
     
  5. HerHubby

    HerHubby The SF Poet Laureate
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    I agree with what the guys said above. Also, if she is on the birth control pill, that can be a libido turn off.