Ok, so I've been going out with this girl for about a year and a half and I love her to death, but the sexual part is just not there really. We don't have much time to be sexual most of the time because we're both busy a lot, but when we do it's all about her. At the beginning, I didn't really mind this because I was making her feel good, but now it's like that all the time. Whenever we get a chance to be intimate or anything she wants me to either finger her, give her oral or just have sex, depending on the time we have or where we're at. I mean, I can't complain about her wanting to have sex all the time, but I can't help but want her to do more for me. I'm always doing things for her, but she doesn't do anything in return. She realizes this sometimes and says she feels bad that she didn't do anything for me but what am I going to do, be mad at her? I don't think that's the right way to go about it. Now, at the beginning of the relationship, we were both virgins, thus she doesn't know how to do a lot of things. She doesn't like giving oral now because of her lockjaw, she says it hurts for a week afterwards. I don't want to hurt her, but the thing is, if it hurts her mouth like that, I'd think she's doing something wrong because she opens her mouth that wide everyday to eat food... If she does decide to give me oral, in all honesty, it's not that great, but I still like it because she honestly never does it, probably 5 times the entire time we've been going out, and that was for less than a minute or two. I'm just not satisfied only having sex to get my own pleasure, but even then I feel like when we have sex she only really likes it because it feels good for her and it's just like a bonus that it feels good for me. I really just don't know what to do. What are your guys thoughts/suggestions/comments/questions? I mean, I would tell her this, but then I think she might take it the wrong way and think that she's not good at pleasing me and in turn just make her not want to let me show her what to do. I try to give her subtle hints, but she doesn't take them or just ignores them. It's very frustrating. Help!