my husbands a pervert!

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  1. itsallforhim

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    i dont know craigs(itsallforher)problem is but he cant seem to keep his dick away from his hand and w/ me, and i dont understand cuz i look damn good
     
  2. Logger

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    Dear All for Him,

    Good looks are certainly an enhancement for pleasure.

    I personally struggle with keeping my masturbating limited, so as not to interfere with times when W is willing to make love.

    The search engine on this forum is fast. you might search terms like masturbation, which would give a lot of hits. I don't know how to search for two terms. Is Porn involved? Search Porn or Pornography.

    Here is a thread I started, in the marriage section:

    http://www.sexualforums.com/talk/showthread.php?t=1491


    Here is a debate I had with a lady who felt porn was ruining her husband, and I suggested that she make his masturbation and viewing porn, a time of sharing love. She apparently got uspet with me and never posted back.

    http://www.sexualforums.com/talk/showthread.php?t=487&highlight=pornography


    I searched Atmosphere: I need a feeling of trust and loving. Beauty is nice, but a Beautiful woman can create an unpleasant atmosphere as easily as a less attractive woman. My expereince is that often less attractive women will try harder to create a loving atmosphere. Trust issues are important. Here is a thread from Atmosphere, which gives an idea of how seemingly unrelated issues can carry over into sexaul arousal.

    http://www.sexualforums.com/talk/showthread.php?t=829&highlight=atmosphere

    Here is a thread that describes a husband who is frustrated that his wife's desires for sex are streaky, inconsistent, and barren for months at a time. Differences in sex drives and balancing masturbation times and being ready for when my Wife is ready, is chalenging, and requires discipline and timing.

    http://www.sexualforums.com/talk/showthread.php?t=940

    When are you ready to have sex? From what time to what time? What foreplay would you like to occur furst, before sex? If H feels horny, and wants to masturbate, how can he be sure that you wil be available, if he waits?

    I delayed masturbation the other day, Planning to see W after work. A guy called in sick, and I had to stay over, and didn't see my wife till the next day, and I was so tired, from working the double the day before, that I slept all night, the next night, and did not get any till the next day, three days after I delayed jacking off!

    The way you present the problem in the two lines you worte, is that H has insufficient discipline, and you are perpetually ready 24-7. If discipline is a problem, have you researched the avenues available in your area for increasing self-discipline? If H really is weird, what programs have you suggested for helping him alleviate whatever wierdness is interfering with Love?

    Maybe you can sue Michael Jackson becasue he sang the song "Beat It".

    Blessings
     
  3. Logger

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    Dear All for Him,

    There is a guideline for commuications in families, that is 7 to 1. That means 7 positives to one complaint. Can you list out some positives about H here?

    The idea is that if you have a complaint or construcive criticism for a family member, you first find 7 positive comments of recognition or praise, before you mention the complaint. I personally need to do better with my lists of praise in my family.

    If H hears complaints more than appreciation from you, then the atmosphere in your home may not be ideal for loving intercourse. Do you have times set aside as complaint free times? My wife sometimes waits until we are in advanced foreplay, and then starts to list out her selfish demands. Talk about going limp!

    Do you know about the Love Bank concept from Marriagebuilders?

    http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3550_summary.html


    Post back, as I am probably more wrong than right.

    Blessings
     
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    1.ok why do you think that?
    2.did he try to love you and did you turn him down?
     
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