My husband wants do give another man oral sex

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  1. wifey30

    wifey30 New Member

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    My husband told me he wants to try giving another man oral sex. He has never done it before but says it looks fun and just wants to try it and see if he likes it. I dont think i have a problem with him trying something new. I like sucking cock and also think its fun. I dont think it would be right to tell him he cant try it. What does everyone think.
     
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    I dont kow. I think if your okay with it than its oaky. I cant believe he told you this you guys must have a really ope relationship. What ever floats your boat. Hopefully he does not like it too much. I only mean more than going down on you. How do you feel that your husband may be gay or bi ?
     
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    in a similiar boat....but my husband wants his dick sucked by another man....of course the catch is he wants to watch me fuck....
     
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    Dunno, dunno L4...........starting to sound a bit "off" to me and from other posts noticed some reticence on your part which IMHO is very normal.
    Suggest you not let this get too far unless you feel comfortable about it all and not just "ok" to please him.
     
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    That's sounds a bit more like a closet homosexual thing, maybe? I would only say that because I'm 100% hetero and I would be totally turned off to do anything with another female. I agree you should be very ok with it if you go ahead.
     
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    If you're OK with it, what do you care what we think? If that's you're question, do we think it's OK if you're OK with you're husband sucking another man's dick, you don't even need to ask. Just do it, or rather let him do it, and have fun!

    As for him being gay, just a label. Is a man gay if he sucks a cock? Yes, no, maybe. Women seem to get a pass if they like other women. They're bi and it's hot, so who cares. But if a man wonders what gay sex might be like, he's a closet homosexual destined to leave his wife and shack up with some guy in a leather harness and cheesy mustache? Puh-lease!

    Men can be bisexual too. I wouldn't worry about it. Besides, if he is gay and really desires a man instead of you, wouldn't you like for him to find that out now, not 20 years later after you've built a life, had kids, etc. and you've both been living a lie, so you can get on with your life? Assuming you haven't already done those things, of course. Not saying that will happen, but he is what he is and denying it isn't going to change that.
     
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    I tried it a few times in an all-male college before I had slept with a girl. Circle jerks that went further basically. the guys were hot and we were all uber horny experimental/curious. I enjoyed it, although at the time it confused me cause I thought I might be gay. I then started having sex with girls and for the last 12 years I have only had girls and see myself as "basically straight with very slight bi-interests" if one needs to label such things. I often watch porn and if I see a really great cock I wonder what it would be like to suck it.. but in real life I am almost never attracted to guys and I LOVE girls. I think I want to re-live those experiences with those same guys rather than find a new one. Interestingly all 3 guys involved are living straight lives and two are happily married with kids. the third is quite a player with the ladies.

    I have kept this "past" secret from most girls for fear of judgement, but I have shared it with two (an ex and my current gf). Both are very open minded and both had admitted bi experiences with girls which made me more comfortable to open up. Both took it really well and in fact found it a huge turn-on and wanted details!

    I know my current gf wants to sleep with a girl again, but she doesn't want to share me. I have said we could still have a 3some and I wouldn't touch the other girl, but we haven't progressed the idea. I sometimes throw in a comment about taking a cute guy home but she says she doesn't want anyone else cause I am enough blah blah.. she finds it hard to understand that I would love to go down on a girl and/or a guy with her.

    I think one can easily be 80% or 90% "straight" and perfectly comfortable with being slightly bi and wanting to feel or taste a cock but without having an emotional attraction to men. This is how I am and I have interacted with plenty of guys who feel the same way.

    My problem is I want to go and try it again to see how I really feel about it.. but if I do this and don't tell her is it cheating! Probably yes... so it remains fantasy for now
     
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    Here is another way to look at it - going with the idea he might like it:
    If you agreed he has sex with another woman, even as a threesome or you being present and he likes more of it, how do you think you will feel?
    You are honestly secure with yourself and with the relationship?
    In this context, simply reverse the gender of your husband's play partner.
    He may find out he is bi or just a fantasy to explore but be ready.
     
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    I have let and asked my husband to suck another man's cock. So far I have watched him suck two men and it is a massive turn on for both of us. He enjoys it very much and I trust him that he wouldn't do anything without me. If you both want to do it go for it just be safe about it.
     
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    My straight husband wants to give another man oral sex. Our sex life is great, having sex 4-5 times a week, I have to say I'm a little runed on by the idea. Is my husband alone in his curiosity?? HELP!
     
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    The marriage bed is undefiled.

    If you're okay with it, why not? Experimentation can both be healthy and dangerous for a relationship. You could stand to lose your husbands respect if you go against him on this matter. You could also stand to have him lose sexual interest in you if he really likes it. But if your relationship is strong and the two of you believe neither one will stray without the other's permission. Go for it.

    However, I am never one for threesomes and I think that they are completely vile. Quite a few relationships end or become "rocky" because of a threesome.
     
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    I dont' know any STRAIGHT men that WANT to suck off another guy..period. He may be bi or closet gay....is his name Marcus Bachman? LOL
     
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    I think its dangerous unless you don't care to lose your guy to another man. I'm with backcheck here, I don't know any truely straight men that want to suck on another mans penis.
     
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    Let's define some labels for guys - bi or gay - to me is looking to an emotional connection with another guy. This would include, kissing, hand holding, hugging, etc.

    I'm a guy, I don't want to hold another guys hand or kiss or hug him. I would consider jerking his cock or sucking it especially with my wife. Am I gay? No, am I straight vanilla - no.

    So find a new label for guys in this category.
     
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    I couldn't have said it better myself, Victor. Personally, I think sexuality is a fluid thing, it fluctuates. I hate labels. Pleasure is pleasure.
     
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    Yeah im going to say that if u can do anything to another man and get turned on thats Gay....U might not but 100% full Gay but lets just call u Bi-Sexual then... U go both ways... Basically its something alot of men might have issues with because they might get turned on by another man but they know the difference in whats right and whats wrong so they ignore it... Your husband ???. Its one of them things like drugs, I wonder what can i try next to get that next High... Sex same way First handjobs, fingering, Sex, Oral,, Anal and next thing 3 somes and toys and all the wild stuff... But my thing is i had a 3 some with a homeboy and this girl and honestly sex was going good and we was getting her threw both holes and our dicks touched and after that we both couldnt get hard no more for the rest of the night... No matter what she tried So thats straight but if u get harder because u like the feel of another man... Yeah..
     
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    Thaaats pelapela. But I mean, I guess if you are ok with it. As long as nothing uncomfortable goes on between you and hime.
     
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    Absolutely nothing wrong with sucking a good c¤ck. I've done it and my knows about it. But let me warn you...it's addictive. I crave c¤ck now 24/7/365. So if ya okay with it, go for it.
     
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    I would never suck another mans dick. I don't mind sucking on dildos/strapons but never another dude.
     
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    :lol I think it's Hot! Also a great fantasy for him to share with u. My husband is also curious and I'm fine with this. I also would like for our tongues to glide side to side up and down another cock together :) then let my husband finish him off with a Big Swallow! Yummy