My husband is curious about giving another man oral sex

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    thewonderingwife New Member

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    My husband is not gay, however he is curious about giving another man oral sex. Several years ago when he was 21 (he's 36 now) he gave a man a hand job, wouldn't let the other man touch him but was so turned on that he got hard and had to get off right there. We have sex at least 4-5 times a week. Our sex life is great. I have to admit that I too am a little turned on by this curiosity and often fantasize about it. Is my husband alone? Do other straight men have the same curiosities?
     
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    I'm not gay or bisexual but I have wondered what it would be like to be sucking on a dick, but never got hard by the thought of it or anything.

    I'd say it's perfectly normal.
     
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    Me to ive often wondered totaly normal :)
     
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    would you be joining in?
    if you are, can i offer my services as someone who who has also pondered with the idea of having a guy suck me off.
     
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    I've never ever wondered about that.
     
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    Really, I think it's fairly common, even for totally str8 guys, to have this curiosity. Giving (or receiving) a blowjob with another guy doesn't automatically make you gay, either. If you look through older threads, you will see this topic comes up very often... My advice is, if you're ok with it, and he's ok with it, then see where it leads.

    For those that warn of the closet gay syndrome, oh come on! If he is gay, and in denial, he's not true to himself anyway, and each and every one of us deserves that chance.

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    I have had a number of sexual interactions with guys when I was in high school and college. It was an all-male boarding school environment, and having horny boys sharing dorms and open showers can have interesting outcomes. I was in a few circle jerks and then later things went further with three guys - mutual masturbation, blow jobs and 69's (no anal). They were three of the hottest and most popular guys in school - sporty, popular with the girls etc.

    Without exception all of us are living totally straight lives now 9most are married with kids). However, I often wonder what it would be like to do it again (that was >14yrs ago)...

    i have shared these stories with four girls - three were straight and one lesbian. All of them thought it was cool and were curious for all the details (even the lesbian girl!). For one of my exes she LOVED the idea and wanted all the details - it got her really turned on and she wanted me to arrange a gay hook-up so she could watch. I found this interesting cause I knew guys like watching girls get it on but I didn't realise some girls felt the same way about guys.

    I still sometimes wonder if I should try and get a hook-up with a guy, but my problem is that I don't find many guys attractive and I don't want any strings attached!! I basically want to re-live those experiences....

    I think this is more common than most guys admit!
     
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    I am not a gay . I am having sex with my wife at least 5 times per week . But i like to giving oral to other guys. Okay. Now i understood that it is not so harm.
     
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    I definitely don't believe your husband is alone in his curiosity about having oral sex with another man. It's cool that he can share those thoughts with you. I am guessing that there a large number of men who have had the same experiences or are bi-curious -- but are uncomfortable with admitting or acknowledging their feelings. Whether you want to keep it at fantasy level or take it to the next level is something you will both have to decide. : )
     
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    I'll say I am pretty darn curious about doing it too but I can't see myselfaxctually doing it. Had my chance, no one would ever know, but just not for me. Yep, curiosity is normal, he may find out he is bi as well.
     
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    Hi...Do you believe that he's told you the truth and that this is finished or was a one time thing? Do you have reasons to doubt him?

    I wouldn't worry about a business colleague in this case. I would think that he would be one of the last people that you would try to "experiment" with. If the business partner outed you at the office that would be a total disaster
     
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    I love giving oral to other men who don't want to reciprocate. Better to give than to receive! :)
     
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    I think about it often as well and wish it could happen but don't think it ever will....oh well...
     
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    Maybe your "hubby" was a pitcher before you married and now he wants to be a catcher.
    In any event, if he goes down another guys he is definitely GAY!!:eek
     
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    I don't think a guy wanting to or actually going down on another man necessarily makes him gay...But that is JMHO.
     
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    LoL Oh Lordy.
    That is not gay. But it is bisexual, which is basically a smaller percentage of being interested in the same sex, even if they are interested more in the opposite sex it still = kind of gay.
    No... 100% straight guys do NOT fantasize and get off about sucking another man's dick. Thinking about it is one thing - we all think about lots of things, but being attracted to a dick means you are attracted to dicks.
    Just because it's not in one hole in your body (anal), doesn't mean it's less Bi. You wouldn't be shoving it down your throat if you weren't getting off, right? That equals bisexual, even if it's just 10 percent.

    But really almost all people are kind of bisexual! There's nothing wrong with that.

    But i do have a problem with someone being interested in dick, when they are with me and i have pussy. I'd be like WTF. Personally I would slap my man in the face if I found out he wanted to suck dick, and i'd tell him to be a man and get back to eating pussy and say "that's my job!" I'm not against bisexuals, or gays at all, but if a bisexual man is with me, he is NOT going to be on any dicks. I'm bisexual too, but if I'm with a man, I want him to be thinking of pussy. And if i'm with a girl, I want her to be thinking about pussy. LoL. Whatever gender, they have to think 100% pussy, strap ons are fine because they aren't real.
    When I'm with a man I want him to be a fully 100% straight man who doesn't think about having sex with meatrods, I typically go for men who are extremely masculine. And when i'm with a girl I want her to be extremely feminine, the most fragile girly girl i can find! *sigh* But that's just me...
     
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    In my opinion, I really think your husband is gay.
     
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    my girl would pack her bags the minute i said that to her ...lol
    luckily, sucking a cock is not on my "bucket list"...
     
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    There's no way on earth I'd do that or be intrigued about it, Your husband is either full on gay but in denial or bi and in denial. Either way he's in denial.
     
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    As a straight husband I can say I have had the curiosity...nothing wrong with it at all.
     
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