My husband changes the way he "does" it when i start to use my toy

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  1. yourmama

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    I use a toy, to "complete" my orgasm when havving sex with my husband. But when I start to use it (its a small vibrator) he doesn't penetrate as far and it feels and sounds like he's holding his orgasm in EVRYTIME! It messes with me and I don't have a full orgasm. I don't know how to change this. I've told him and he says he can't help it....
     
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    if it were me i would just stop as soon as it comes out...i dont know if its just me but i wouldnt wanna finish knowing that my woman is using a lifeless object to help her finish instead of just me.....imo...
     
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    by the way you should introduce your self in the member introduction section.....before the lovely ladies in this forum start harassing you....;)
     
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    Sorry but some women can't orgasm without that "lifeless object" helping her no matter how great her partner is in bed. :yell

    I'm sorry YourMama but I'm not sure what advice I can give of the top of my head.
     
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    A question and a comment:

    Question: Have you ever tried it with you on top? Seems like you'd be able to grind into him that way, so penetration wouldn't be as much of an issue anymore.

    Comment: I can guess why he's holding it back... perhaps he's trying to last longer, in an effort to satisfy you before he climaxes. (Ironically, though, his holding back seems to be holding you back, too). Maybe that will fix itself over time... practice makes perfect ;^)
     
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    I like to finish my wife off using a dildo sometimes.
    It lasts longer than me :)
     
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    If I use a vibe on my clit while my husband is inside of my vagina, he says he can feel the vibes on his cock and it tickles and makes it harder to focus.

    One the other hand, if I have a vibe in my pussy while he has his cock in my ass, he says the vibes feel really good and it adds to the excitement.
     
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    The first part was going to be my suggestion. Taking shallower strokes probably lessens the effect of the vibe on him.
     
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    Yeah I agree! Men should not be insecure about the toy thing.
    Not all women can cum just by vaginal sex alone.
    It doesn't mean she "prefers" the toy over you!
     
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    Problem here is that I've also known girls who generally much prefer the toy to the man. That isn't to say they just have had bad luck with men or any other number of things, but it doesn't follow to simply say guys shouldn't be afraid of toys. It's a legitimate fear.
     
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    Somewhat,but only if she starts choosing the toy over being with you.
    The same for a guy who starts choosing porn over having the real thing
    (in my opinion)


    I love the feel of penetration,and the "real" thing,so personally I would not want a toy over a mate.But if it helped when my mate was tired/done/whatever I don't see the harm.Would it be better to leave the woman unsatisfied?
     
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    Very true.

    It definitely is a personal thing.

    That's an apples to oranges statement. I was only trying to point out that as usual it's entirely a case by case thing. Nothing more. :)
     
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    Everything usually is a case by case thing.I get what you're saying :D
     
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    oh sorry its just the way i feel about it, if some woman cant then they cant i would prefer for me to do all the work, but if i was with a woman like that i would be a little frustrated.....but i defiantly wouldnt mind one if i was in her ass and she stuck one in her pussy....
     
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    That is hot:eyes
     
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    This totally implies that you are insecure.

    At the end of the day is vibe is to my orgasm as a lighter is to a fire. Sure, I could spend hours rubbing two sticks together, but why do that when I can spin a little wheel and have a fire in seconds.
     
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    Awesome! I wonder if that'll ever make its way onto a standardized test somewhere...

    Vibe : Orgasm :: Lighter : Fire
     
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    i have personally dealt with this in the past,
    so in my case the vibrations would stimulate me as well so i had to slow daown or even stop at times to avoid blowing my load. we tried it diff ways too and doggy gave the best stimulation to both of us. and she got off very quick
     
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    My partner likes to do this from time to time. As she comes it can become harder to stay as deep inside because she starts to move around a little as she nears orgasm. Do it with you on top. You get to control how inside you he is that way. It sounds like he is trying to hold his orgasm in incase him cumming ruins yours. If you want him to orgasm tell him while you're riding him. When my partner first did this I felt the same and tried to hold it in. Once she had told me how much she wanted me to cum if I needed to the experience was a lot better for us both.