My girlfriend is strange.......

Discussion in 'Sexual Foreplay and Techniques' started by UtherPendragon, Mar 17, 2008.

  1. UtherPendragon

    UtherPendragon New Member

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    Or maybe not!
    She loves her pussy to be touched, her clitoris rubbed etc. but as soon as I try to put my fingers inside her she says nooooooooo, like it's gross or something.
    any other women feel the same way?
    She has no problem at all with my penis in there.
     
  2. Bluesy

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    I don't think it feels very pleasant to every woman, though there may be other reasons. Fingering doesn't really do anything for me unless it's happening in conjunction with cunnilingus. Does she like to be fingered when you perform oral on her?
     
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    I've never been a fan of being fingered although I do love being rubbed. I think a lot of guys fancy themselves as amatuer gynocologists.
     
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    No. She likes to recieve oral but not with fingers.
    She likes to sit on me too and rub herself up and down my cock too. It's not like she is inhibited, more she thinks it's a wierd thing to do?
    I just think she is missing out. I want to snog her deeply while fingering her and I would love to give her a G spot orgasm.
    Actually I dont think she experienced it before. I think she would love it. I just wondered what other women felt about.
     
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    One of my Girl friends was the same way. It was just something that was not cool for her...go figure...
     
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    If she doesn't like it, just don't do it. Problem solved. There are lots of other awesome things you can do.
     
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    It's not a problem. I'm just curious and want to do the best I can.
     
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    As usual, Dreama is the sweet, succinct voice of reason :tup

    Uther, just a thought...I wonder if your gf was molested in the past. Whatever her rationale for not wanting to be fingered (and who said a rationale had to be rational?), it isn't necessary for g-spot stimulation. There are some fabulous toys designed specifically for this purpose (the Vibratex Pixie and Hitachi Magic Wand G-spot attachment--I think it's called "g-whiz" or something similar--come to mind). We all have our little idiosyncrasies and sometimes the best thing a loving partner can do is allow mysteries to remain mysteries while making the most of what you've got.

    Good wishes to you, hon.
     
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    Thanks Bluesy,
    I don't think she has been molested. If she has any issues with her sexuality or self I can't see them. She is very open sexually.
    The only women who have offered their preference are you and Sarah and it seems to do little for you two either, so thats fine.
    About the toys. She does not want to try them either.
     
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    talk to your partner

    I am going to put out a radical idea , ask her about it.You can guess for ever so why not just talk?

    My wife does not like to swallow so I asked her about it and she told me why which I understood, so then we comprised and sucked me off with a rubber on.
     
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    My wife doesn't care for finger insertion. If I'm bringing her to orgasm with my fingers, I slide it in around the curve towards her G-spot to pick up moisture and she does like that. The rest of my finger stays in contact with her clitoris while I'm doing that though. But she does not like to be finger fucked. She won't stop me until I try two fingers, but I don't try. She also really likes it when I'm licking her clit, and I insert a finger inside right behind her clit and wiggle it with the same rhythm as my tongue.
     
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    HR, I'm pretty much the same as your wife, I think. I'm not a huge fan of fingers in my vagina, but I do like just a fingertip inside of me while he's eating me.
     
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    Wow, that sort of surprises me at least a little. I have had friends like that but I didn't realize so many were turned off by it. I enjoy being fingered, especially if he keeps his thumb working my clit at the same time. I think of it with the same mentality of him putting his penis in. I love that feeling of something going in. My G spot is a huge hot spot for me so if a finger or two are gently massaging it, I am in O heaven. My current bf occasionally inserts his pinky into my anus when he is fingering me or when he is doing oral on me and that is a pretty hot situation as well. I have had one bf in my past that just didn't have a clue. It felt like he was trying to enlarge me with his fingers rather than stimulate me. I gave him the boot before too long because he just couldn't be gentle and sensual. Guys, you need to be hot and loving. Not rough and ripping!
    OH! One thing further. Oil is essential for the best feelings. I get this expensive stuff at Bath and Body works. Smells like vanilla and black cherry. It's awesome.
    Bec
     
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    I do the same thing to my wifey and she loves it too. I use astroglide or liquid KY but really like the idea of the scented oils. Thanx Bec
     
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    A guy really needs to figure out what kind of mood his SO is in. Sometimes wifey wants it 3R (rude, rough, and ripping) and other times soft and gentle.
     
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    That's what we call rape. R-A-P-E. I hope that was a joke.
     
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    Same kind of skin!

     
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    It's taken me a while to post here but what the hell, we're trying to reach 200,000 posts. :) I don't particularly like to be fingered because I was molested and that's one of the things that was done to me. However, this experience did not make me frigid or lesbian. I love sex and I love cock (well, one cock in particular...) but I just have negative associations with being fingered.

    Also, I'm certainly not implying that your girlfriend dislikes being fingered because she was molested. I'm merely stating my own personal reasons for disliking it.
     
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    Good call, Dreama - and badboy2's post was removed, too :tup
     
  20. Dreama

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    That's good. It was really creepy to read someone say that.