My boyfriend and I broke up

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  1. Firecracker

    Firecracker New Member

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    I know this isn't about sex. But just wanted to let you know why I might not be on here much for a while. My boyfriend and I broke up last night. He said that sex with me had become meaningless because he wasn't in love with me. The jerk!
     
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    i'm sorry. i had the same sort of thing happen to me. one day she woke up and decided she didn't love me anymore. anyways, he does sound like a jerk, so you'll probably be better off without him.
    i know this probably didn't help, but i tried.
     
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    Sorry you had to go through the same thing. Helps to know I'm not alone. He's said he tries to love me but can't. He just started not coming home after work and staying out late at our friend's place. I know he was avoiding me.
     
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    Omfg that sux sorry 4 the loss but it sounds like its a good thing tho @ least 4 now!
     
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    Tell...

    ...him thank you, do whatever it is you do to get over things and move on. Would you rather he kept on?
     
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    No, because that would have made it even harder.
     
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    I'm so sorry...*hugs*
     
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    (((hugs))))
    Not get out there an enjoy being single. You might just like it. ; )
     
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    (Gasping for breath!!) :bow
     
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    You may well thank "the jerk" one day. Don't stay away from here. Join in on someones problems and yours will grow smaller in an instant. Much sooner then you now think you will feel better.;)
     
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    You do have a good point. It would help to feel needed and I might be able to help someone else.
     
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    At least now you have the chance like Mel said to enjoy being single for a while , live life your way and sooner or later something or someone far more worthy of you will turn up..

    Sorry for your lose and for the hurt it must have given you.
     
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    Love is a choice, not a feeling. It's truly being other-centered towards your significant other.
     
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    The feeling hurts. When I broke up with my GF she came up with some BS excuse as to why she couldn't be with me. While I couldn't understand why she broke up with me I understand it was the best thing for the both of us. I liked her a lot and I knew she liked me but we were too different. We were on two different paths.

    I guess what I'm trying to say is while we may not understand the reasons now, it will become clear later. Once you get an oppurtunity to clear your head, you will know why.
     
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    I've been thur that same fork in the road, I alway thought about what it wouldv'e been like, most likely not ggod.


    don't think about it to much and try to move on as quickly as possible, and surround your self with those who love and care about you.

    best of luck!

    Tongue
     
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    i agree whole heartedly. im going through my own troubles now and i found that the ability to type out my problems and then have a stranger comment helped with seeing the other side and consider the problem. someone responded to me that professiona lhelp was the way to go, and i agree its vital, but everyones has gone through trials and seeing other 'normal' people give their 2 cents worth was therapudic for me.

    dave
     
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    Sorry to hear about your break up, hon. I hope you are OK.
     
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    go and enjoy it whilst you can hun, breaks up are very upsetting but keep you're head up, i'm sure you'll find a gem somewhere
     
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    my first major breakup came just in time for me to meet my current girl by coincidence, and the difference between the two relationships and how much happier i am now than before is simply staggering.

    The breakup was even really harsh, and if it wasnt such a clean break, i would have gone to prom with her as a friend, but instead i went to prom with someone a friend of mine needed to hook up with a date and we've been addicted to eachother as friends ever since, until we made the move to have a serious relationship recently, all because i broke up at the right time and under the right circumstances.
     
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    I disagree, attraction and love is a feeling, it just happens, not a choice. Please stay around and offer advice! If anyone has problems that need advice just PM me and find out how screwed up I really am! Haha.
    You did not say how long you two were together, and maybe he is not such a jerk after all. Maybe he realized he was not in love with you and make that hard decision knowing it is not fair to you to live in a lie.
    Hang in there!
    Big Hug!