[Ask a Girl] My best friend and my fiancee?

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  1. icouplei

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    I have told my fiance before that my best friend (of all my life) was the only woman other than I, that could literally suck him off and I wouldn't get up set. The more I thought about it the more I realized I don't think I really would mind. Then when he went home for a few days they went to a club together with a group of friends, and were cuddled up on a couch. Our friends were making comments, and when he got home, for some reason he told me about it. ...and it turned me on. Would it be so bad if I let my guys girl on the side be my best friend? (if this is something they'd even be ok with or want?) ..I mean, it would spice things up, I would know where he is if he strays a bit. And even when I travel for work she can take care of him.

    ..need advice so I don't potentially suggest something and cause a storm
     
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    What if things heat up between them? Are you ready to take a risk like that?
     
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    I wish my Boy Friend gives the responsibility to some of his cute friend (male) to lick me and make me cum when he is away...:D
     
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    Are you ready to face the potential downfalls of allowing a third into a relationship? Or giving him the permission to get something on the side that he's not getting from you. Think about it.

    How long have you two been together? Do you trust him in this type of relationship?
     
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    For some, its tough to seperate the act of sex from the emotions of it. If everyone involved can see it as just sex, then there may be no problem. There is also another concept as polyamory, but it takes all parties involved to have the same feelings.
     
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    I agree with what some of you are saying, and obviously had the same thoughts. This isn't a horribly foreign thing to us. We shared a hotel room with she and another guy a year or so back and had sex at the same time with our partners and watched each other. Maybe I will suggest that they (my friend and my fiancee) stick to oral and mutual masturbation if they'd like. And maybe I will consider asking her to join us once and a while and give her more free reign then.
     
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    It's like waving a candy in front of a kid and you tell the kid he / she can't have it. Allowing temptations to take place and to develop.
    Chances are there will be more happening behind your back that you won't know about.
     
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    I agree 100%

    Allowing only certain aspects of a sexual relationship but denying the others is ridiculous in my opinion.
     
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    Agreed also.
    Once the genie is out of the bottle; "too late she cried!"
     
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    lol well scratch this plan! thanks! :) now we just have to find a girl to watch us...
     
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    Shes coming to stay with us next week, how could I ease a playful situation on between the three of us?
     
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    Staying with you next week? Sounds like circumstances are already moving things in the direction you want to go. You might as well just let things happen, and roll the dice. Good luck :)
     
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    but how can i get them rolling, i kind of want it to happen without them knowing before-hand
     
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    Serve a lot of alcohol
     
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    I have a feeling it would happen regardless so might as well get in it and share it, or lose it.
     
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    If you are serious about wanting it to happen, I would say get some music going and start dancing with your friend. Let the sexual energy build up as it builds to a grind and eventually kissing. At that point you can wave your fiance over. A little alcohol can speed up the process.
     
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    why do you say that?
     
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    Because you're inviting her over to stay at your house and this is something you want. Subconsciously or not, you would make small steps into letting it happen.
     
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    Wish I knew your boy friend.
     
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    The more I have thought, I really wouldn't mind what goes down, just as long as I am the one that causes him to cum. I would love to watch him put it on her face.