my 13.5yearold cousin asks me sex questions, am i allowed to answer?

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  1. beth_deakin_uni

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    he could ask his parents or friends but he said i'm his best friend and the only one to trust, so i answer but i don't know if its ok or wrong. he asks during video games in his room when my family visits.
     
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    I would talk with his parents and tell them that he is asking you questions and see if it is ok with them if you answer him. Some parents may be ok with it some may not. What kind off questions is he asking?
     
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    I agree with Dan about telling his parents. Depending on what he's asking and if your honest with him and not doing anything inappropriate, I think it's ok. He must be real comfortable with you to ask.
     
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    my cousin has a new gf and was asking questions about whether or not he should ask his gf before touching under her skirt during kissing.
    he also asked whether his penis size was big.
    and he also asked if girls usually squirt.

    for sure:}
    ok as long as his parents don't say anything to him about me asking:/
     
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    Something don't sound right. He's 13 you're how old, n his best friend. I had many female cousins growing up I didn't ask them if my cock was big enough especially female older cousins. Asking if she can squirt - sure dude
     
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    not sure which is normal, i've never had a brother and he's my only male cousin:/
    oh i'm 18.
     
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    Answer his questions... tell him

    1. Yes he should ask first. (respect)
    2. Yes he has a big penis (ego)
    3. No not all women squirt (real life)

    Now if he is creepy and asking if he can feel you up, show you his penis and make you squirt.....well that depends on your comfort level but remember he is only a boy and a horny one at that.
     
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    thanks, those answers are perfect:}
     
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    No, it's really not appropriate. It's one thing to ask about girlfriends and such. You can tell him to be respectful and similar things but inappropriate questions about how big his penis is and about girls squirting? No, absolutely not. You need to talk to his parents so his parents can sit him down and answer those questions.
     
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    I think he is testing the waters (so to speak) about asking you for sex. I would have NEVER asked my female cousins sexual questions like that. You're 18, he's not even 14. Your treading on dangerous waters here. First off, you shouldn't be alone with him. What starts out as innocent questions can have very serious consequences. Imagine if an 18 year old boy was asking a 14 year old girl if she had started her period yet, if she still had her cherry, things of that nature. Very inappropriate I think.
     
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    Asking questions about sexuality (like his query regarding touching his GF) are good and safe to answer. You don't want him to make any mistakes or do something to get himself in trouble.
    As for the "Is my penis big?" and "Do all girls squirt?" That indicates (to me) that he's got exposure to sex/sexuality content beyond his maturity level (via porn/peers/&c), I know - I think most guys have been there. NOT APPROPRIATE TO ANSWER! Bring it to his parents' attention, but don't condemn him or make it out as Bad. It's natural for a boy to have curiosity, but at the same time caution needs to be taken so as to not overexpose him before he is mentally/emotionally ready. He's at the age where physically he's growing up FAST but his mind is left behind trying to catch up.
    So, summary:
    Questions you'd learn the answer to in Sex Education classes - Yes.
    Questions you'd see on here - NO!
     
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    yup i'll talk to his parents then.
    even though he is not confident in his parents i think they are nice parents.

    we both like the same video games and we live close together {or we lived close before i moved out this year}.
    hard to believe he would see me romantically, i've been like his sister always:/
    when i was 14 no males asked me about my period.
     
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    he might have been online at those video sites.
    i'm not sure which words to use to his parents but i'll think about it:/
    thanks i'll follow that summary rule:}