Mutual Masturbation

Discussion in 'Sexual Foreplay and Techniques' started by confused08, Apr 9, 2009.

  1. confused08

    confused08 New Member

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    Hello All!

    Its been awhile since I have been on here I know! For a long time I was having trouble logging in. Finally figured it all out.

    I have been reading on here about couples and mutual masturbation. My fiance and I seem to be going through sort of sexual funk right now. I seem to be more open about trying new things. This has actually come across my mind. I have this fantasy about watching her masturbate to a porn as if i was not there. I dont know it is just something about watching her do it that gets me going. I have tried to tell her what I want but she seems to be closed minded to the idea. I am not sure why but if any of you have any advise about how I should talk to her about it I would be appreciative.

    Also, I am always looking for new kinky sexual things to do with her(you know besides the norm), so if anyone has any suggestions let me know! Let me tell you a few things we already do.

    I am always, I mean almost everytime, going down on her and staying til she gets off at least once if not more.

    Sometimes porn-then sex no masturbation during. This is very rare.

    Actually that seems to be it!

    I guess thats where my problem lies huh!

    Alright guys looking forward to your input.



    Thanks everyone.
     
  2. evman

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    We have a cock shaped dildo that we use on occasions and one time I mentioned to my wife that I would love to catch her using it on herself sometime unexpectedly. One day I came out of the bathroom and there she was lying on the bed using the dildo. Naturally I was immediately aroused.

    I love the thought of her playing with herself when I am not there though I don't think she ever does it.

    Put some porn on and tell her you would love to watch her pleasure herself while she watched the movie and you watched her.
     
  3. Xperson

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    +1.... I also like when my wife pleasure herself....
    at first, She had not any sexual experience... and she was rather closed and inactive in bed but... I tried To explane evrithing about sexual relationships.... I did not say her all about my sexual fantasies all of a sudden.. first we begin watching pornos together, after this, when I convienced that she was excited... I asked her To pet herself... althought it was unaccustomed for her , but when she did iT several times She liked it.... and now we often enjoy on this way....
    sorry for my english.... hope, it is clear what i want to say.....:)
     
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    We always begin sex with mutual masturbation while watching a group sex DVD. We love to watch each other masturbate. We fantasize that we are part of the group. I will tell her that I would like to see her with another dick in her while she gave me BJ. She talks about how much she likes cum. Here is some action from last night.

    Last night we began masturbating together while watching a group sex DVD. She was so hot and wet. Then she took our new larger rabbit and lubed it. She buried it in her pussy. So hot to watch it go inside her. It couldn't have been more than a minute and she was having a wild orgasm. She removed the rabbit and I inserted my dick. We both came in about a minute. Great sex evening. Mutual masturbation is so hot!!
     
  5. confused08

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    Thanks for the replies! I seem to be having trouble finding how to say this too her. Im not sure if she is just uncomfortable with it or what. She has told me that she does watch porn when she maturbates by herself. Its hot just to think about. I just wish I could figure out a way to say it without her feeling uncomfortable. Oh well Ill keep trying I guess.
     
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    I agree mutual masturbation is really hot! you'll ended up with satisfactions!
     
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    masturbation is hot, period. mutual, is THAT MUCH hotter:)
     
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    just tried it after reading this and now our nights are SO much better
     
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    Your masturbate her for a minute. Then you switch. She masturbates herself! It's super hot!
     
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    My G.F. from a just ended affair loved to watch me masturbate. if you both agree it's fun.
     
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    yup, a lot of fun :) plus it's a great way to get comfortable with each other (for new couples)...
     
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    It's a nice start for a great night
     
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    I would just tell her how hot you get just thinking about her masturbating, give it some time and she just might surprise you.
     
  14. Mr n Mrs Smyth

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    (Mrs) Myself and the Hubby are fans of the mutual masturbation,
    i love watching him getting off over me playing and i get off over him wanking ;)
    always good for a bit of foreplay hehe
     
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    Almost every session involves us playing with our selves,
    It just kinda happens naturally.
    I'd love her to put on a show for me, needless to say I'd return the favour.
     
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    My wife and I are really into mutual masturbation. We never masturbated in front of any previous partners, so it took a while to share something that was so private for so long. My wife doesn't use toys to play with herself. We tried a cock-shaped vibrator once, but she wasn't into it. She actually threw it away! We may revisit toys again, but that's for another day. She masturbates face down in bed, using balled-up bedsheets to put pressure on her clit. She rocks back and forth onto the sheets and usually cums in under a minute.

    Now to the mutual part. I can't get myself off in under a minute - I tend to take a little time. She positions herself for a normal masturbation session, and I climb up to the head of the bed. As she rubs herself, I stroke my cock right in front of her face. As she heats up, I'll tease her by sticking just the tip into her mouth. It's so hot to hear her moan on my cock and she rubs her clit. The first time we did this, I ended up blasting her with a full on facial (our first!). Normally, she'll get herself off with the sheets, and I'll pick her up off the bed. I then fuck her hard and fast because we are so incredibly worked up.
     
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    my wife and I have been married over 20 yrs. About 4 years ago was introduced to mut-mast. through Sinclair's "Great Sex" series. It was taboo with her until she saw it in action thru the Sinclair DVD. We've made it a regular part of our sex live. Great Fun!
     
  18. dogy

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    Masturbation YES! I can recommend you the flashlight toy, it is the best way to spend a couple of backs.. see the one I got, the stamina:
     
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    My wife much prefers fucking so we may start in a mutual masturbation position but not complete that way.

    For example, sometimes when Bunnie is tired she will lie on her side and I will kneel behind her ass, put my cock between her ass cheeks and masturbate. Meanwhile she'll be rubbing her clit. When I cum I aim so that it runs into her pussy and she'll get it on her fingers and rub it onto her clit as she cums. Most of the time we do not that far as, as the actions can raise her energy level and she will want to change to fucking position.

    Another position Bunnie likes is to rub and finger her pussy, while I fondle her tits and and stroke my cock over her face so she can lick it. But again most of the time we change to another position before either of us cums, or she will cum and then want to fuck so that I can cum.

    No matter what happens, it is all fun. :)
     
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    Mutual is a very sexy way to get off