I have been trying to date this girl I have known for sometime now. Alisa is Bi-sexual, and I recently learned that she is trying to hook up with a lesbian that lives two hours away. I know long range relationships tend not to work... some do. My advantage is that I live all but four blocks away from her, frequent her house, and also have been known to see her a few times at work. Disadvantage seems to be the fact that she really loves this chick. Megan's advantage is the fact that Alisa loves her, while her disadvantage is the distance. I also dont possibly know how the two of them could last anything long term, one being they are both women, and two they are always fighting over the phone. Megan has stated to Alisa that she doenst want a relationship due to the distance, and that she doesnt have a car. With that aside, last Wednesday, I had the chance to meet up with Alisa at a local bar, where I was already there playing pool with a couple co-workers... Now when she entered I greeted her, and she hugged me and then kissed me on the lips, " hey you " was her greeting. I walked over to the bar, where she soon joined me and kissed me again. I asked Alisa how things were at work, and with Megan like usual. She told me work was boring, and that her and Megan had another fight. I told her that it was unfortunate to hear it, and she got her beer and walked back to the tables. I resumed my play and later went to the restroom. I returned to find that she had talked with Megan, and left pissed off. So since I had no clue where I stood with Alisa, I went over to her house, and checked in with her. We watched a movie, and she then invited me into her room, and we laid in her bed and resumed the movie where she of course cuddled up next to me, still drunk. Alisa passed out halfway through the movie, so I never really talked to her much more than the exchange of a few drunk stories. We did not have sex that night due to my not knowing where things were, and didnt want to start any trouble. Don't get me wrong, I knew she wanted to, and I of course wanted to as well. I mainly stayed away from it, due to the fact Megan being a lesbian does not like Alisa sleeping with guys. Currently as it stands, I have been told that she still wants to try with Megan, and she told me that she enjoyed our night still... As far as the subject of what did or didnt happen she hasnt asked why not, nor have I explained. I have thought that over alot, and you all know about second guessing. I have noticed that she hasnt talked to me as much, since.. but I still want to keep at it. I am just wondering if maybe I should move on from Alisa, or just make sure I am there for her if she needs the trusty shoulder. I do know that I am more traditional in ways.. BTW my roommates told me that I should have just done it, and that kinda makes me feel I lost my chance to prove anything that way to her.