My girlfriend and I recently experienced a miscarriage (7/09). We knew she was pregnant before hand and were goin through all the steps in preparation for this. Today we went to a planned parenthood clinic to see if she did indeed have a miscarriage and was in good health. the doctor told us that she was no longer carrying a child, but there was some material left (in her womb im guessing). He told her to talk to her GYN to make sure she doesnt have an ectopic pregnancy. My gf however isscared to tell her GYN because she fears her parents finding out through the insurance bills.(she has had a bad spring semester academically, and recently lost her job, she fears disappointing her parents even more, with being pregnant) If i had more income, i would have no problem payin out of pocket for any medical charges that would come up, to make sure that she is ok, but as it is, i am very strapped for cash. We are both fairly certain that she did infact pass the child, and that she doesnt have a ectopic pregnancy, but would rather have the medical documents to confirm this (if you would like to know how we are so certain PM). My first issue is, how do i convince her that her parents would be more concerned with her health, than bills or disappoint and get her to go to the doctor? My second is, we had sex thursday night, it was a few days after she stopped bleeding so we assumed it was safe to do so. We both read lots of medical info on miscarriages, and most either said it was safe to have sex after the bleeding subsides, or nothing at all, so we assumed we were in the clear. However, after sex, with moderately deep penetration, she was in a great deal of pain in her abdomen area(she thinks it was her cervix), so much that she could barely stand, walk or talk. Even though we went to the clinic today, she was too scared to tell the doctor about the pain she was feeling, due to fear of having to get her cervix operated on. I am very concerned for her health and wish taht she would go through the neccessary requirements to make sure that she is ok. What i am asking again is, how do i convince her to look after herself, and is intense pain common after a miscarriage? I previously made a post about how much pain she would be in after sex, perhaps it is another issue that plagues her? I know you guys can't really diagnose her off of the little bit of info that i have given you here, but any advice or words on the topic would be greatly appreciated.