MFF Threesome--Fantasy to Reality?

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  1. gabriela

    gabriela New Member

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    This is my first thread, so be kind. :) I need some input here. I wouldn't say that I am at the point of obsession, but I can't stop thinking about this.

    A few months ago, my bf mentioned he would like to watch me being pleasured orally by a woman. I said "no" and the subject hasn't come up again. The response was automatic with me--I didn't even stop to think about it. I had never even contemplated being with a woman and just love men! While I enjoy most things sexual, my absolute favorite sexual activities usually involve orally pleasuring him in a variety of ways. Since his initial inquiry, with no pressure from him, I wandered onto some porn sites and looked at many pictures of women; I also watched some lesbian videos and find myself being very, very turned on by both (no insertion stuff--just very sensual kissing, licking, fingering, 69, lots of tongue, etc). With my strong oral fixation, I found myself strongly attracted to the idea of eating a woman's pussy, even imagining exactly how I would do it. That translated into a fantasy--me eating a woman's pussy while my bf gave it to me doggie style.

    Lately, that fantasy is something that I keep thinking about making reality. I find myself checking out women in the market, on the street--I have started looking at women in a totally different way. I don't want a one-on-one encounter--that doesn't appeal to me. I want my bf to be involved, either watching us pleasure each other and/or joining in. While I think about this more and more, I haven't told my bf about my newfound attraction as I want to make the decision myself without any pressure. Also, I don't really want a serious relationship with this woman (although if things worked out, I would like to establish continuing contact), just someone who loves to be sexually pleasured like I do and who is open minded. Am I crazy? Do other women have these thoughts or fantasies? Have you acted on them and how did it turn out (good or bad)? What do you men think of this? Any experiences to share or advice to give?
     
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    superfan New Member

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    Its ok to have those types of feelings, and if the bf agreed then it should be ok. Nothing wrong with wanted to please your bf and maybe yourself
     
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    Well, I told him "No." My recent thoughts tell me that the pleasure may be all mine! :eek:
     
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    Yes I think your better off gabriela, because something like this is not "all about you". Your b/f probably would want some of the other girl action also, and is that ok with you?
    Thank you for sharing
    Take care
     
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    What do you mean by "better off?" I'm not sure I understood what you were saying "Yes" to.

    You do bring up a good point about how the b/f would interact. I need to give that one a little more thought. Perhaps it would work if some limitations were set, but maybe that is overly selfish to ask of someone. His initial request did turn into an "all about me" fantasy.
     
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    Let me ask the obvious. Would it bother you if he wanted to fuck the other woman while she ate your pussy, or vice-versa? I can see where that would be a mutual benefit and a huge turn-on for both of you! I think this is the height of mutual satisfaction. The key is keeping in mind that both of you will gain, but there shouldn't be any jealousy. I think your b/f is wishing that you would enjoy this every bit as much as he will, if not more so!
     
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    I'm guessing he meant by making the decision yourself without pressure.

    Let us know how this turns out! :)
     
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    You bring up some good (and very direct! ;)) questions, Mike. This all started with him just wanting to watch. I don't think I would have any problem with that--in fact, it has become a huge turn-on for me! It is my own fantasy that grew to include his participation, but I had only thought of he and I having interaction, and separately she and I having interaction, but all at the same time. I don't think I would want to watch him have IC with the other woman and I'm not sure about the rest. I think I would be a bit jealous, even if I wouldn't want to be. And I wouldn't want to have that jealousy cause tension in what is truly a wonderful relationship.
     
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    Thanks, msduncan. I don't plan to rush into this, so it may be a while. The thought has just been lingering and growing and I don't really have anyone to talk to it about. This forum has so many great posters, I thought it would be a good place to get input. (And it is! lol)
     
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    Well ask him. He can tell you if he had in mind his participation or not. If he just wanted to watch or to fuck you while you pleasured the other woman, then you are all set....

    Heck... they could tie you up and both pleasure your helpless body all over if you wanted to go that route..... :D
     
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    Sounds hot, he'd be a lucky guy to be involved. Lots of girls set the rule about no play between her guy and the other girl. The other ground rule to lay out might be that it's purely physical "play" so he doesn't get jealous and no attachments are formed.

    I think most guys would still be happy to fuck his girl and watch her with another girl at same time :bow
     
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    I thought of that. I just hate to open this door unless I know how I feel about all of it and don't want to create expectations, or even possibilities, until I come to grips with my own thoughts.

    OMG! Now that is something I think I would love! Sucking his cock :p is my all-time favorite passtime! A woman between my legs at the same time would be heaven! A little light bondage sounds absolutely thrilling! :D
     
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    Thanks, MikeDog. Question: That doesn't seem selfish to you? You say "lots of girls"--so you know people who have done this successfully? I'm very much a "giver" and for some reason it seems wrong that I would be getting all the pleasure. (I have no interest in developing a separate relationship with the woman--I am very sure of that, so I don't think that would be a problem.)

    :D Whew! Is it warm in here? The humidity is rising, :lol
     
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    No, doesn't seem selfish to me. Your bf gains visual pleasure from watching the scene (trust me he'll be very excited I know I would :lol ). You gain physical pleasure of a different type being with a woman. I personally don't know anyone who's done it but have heard about the common "rules" from general knowledge.
     
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    Humidity? You should be on the East Coast! Oh, something tells me you are saying something else. Are you saying that it made you WET? :eek
     
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    Your response is quite normal to the discussion of having a threesome and your bf is doing the right thing by not bringing it up again. There is a long ways to go from the initial discussion to making it a reality. Right now you are discovering that you might be interested in having sex with another woman but right now it is an interest. If you think you may want to do this my suggestion would be to have what if... conversation with your bf. Mention to him that it is hypothetical and not something you are committing to right now. Ask what if... I wanted, what if I was interested in trying.... and start to gauge his reaction from there. You may find that the idea no longer appeals to him, that he may want to discuss it further with you, or that his original thought has changed.

    In any event take it slow and see where this discussion goes. If it goes well and the two of you decide to take it further then you will need to have further discussions regarding boundaries (relationship and threesome), contingency (what if something goes wrong), and the type of person you are seeking.

    The main thing that both your bf and you need to keep in perspective is that there are less females interested in a threesome than males. It does not mean you will not find a female and it does not mean it won't happen. However the reality of the situation means that you will have to open minded to other possibilities and be willing to dedicate a lot of time if this is the route you want to take. Another thing that the two of you will need to keep in perspective is communication. Without strong communication and basis for your relationship a threesome may be the thing that brings up underlying issues to destroy your relationship.

    As a couple we have had a few threesomes and cuckold experiences that went without a problem for us. Prior to meeting my wife she did have one ffm with a close female friend of hers that seem to go off well. So do not let the doomsayers persuade you not to do it.
     
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    Thank you, yorkie! Good advice, all around (not just the part I quoted). You give me many more things to think about and reconcile in my own mind. We do have a strong relationship and great communication. The only reason I haven't wanted to bring it up with him is because he knows me so well--once I mention it even in a hypothetical way, he will know that it is something I am now seriously thinking about (and I am certain that the desire on his part to do this has not disappeared.) I don't plan to rush into this, unless of course the opportunity just presented itself in a spontaneous way :). Even though my desires for being with a woman have become very strong, I wouldn't want to compromise the relationship between he and I, in any way. He is way too important to me.
     
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    Whatever gave you that idea? ;) (YES! Very!)
     
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    Alright, everyone has good advice, but there's still the fact that you can't very well have a fmf experience with him without his knowledge. You're going to have to discuss it with him at some point. IMHO, if your relationship is half as strong as you say, I don't think you'll have much to worry about.

    Now, I have to mention this, because the thread is on a related topic.

    My SO recently revealed a fantasy of hers to me. She wants to have sex with me while another girl eats her out. Now I thought this a reasonable fantasy, but then (and here's the part that made me go WTF) she told me that after she had gotten off, she would like to trade positions with the other girl. Man, I love my girl. Oh, and yes, feel free to be jealous now.
     
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