Right now our sex life is nil. Due to menopause my wife has pain during sex and add that to a low sex drive to begin with, it is pretty much a no go thing. We have discussed, argued and looked into what can be done. Hormones are out (she is a nurse and sees enough cancer etc.). There is a great womens resource center in a nearby large town that we went to. They have a very good program of things that need to be done that will help rectify the issue. She doesn't follow it at all or even try. It requires the use of dildo's and lubricants and she has a real hang up about using toys. I'm ready to look elsewhere for what I need. Divorce isn't on my radar as I really do care for her, but I am afraid it will eventually kill those feelings off. What would you do or suggest?