Mate is afriad of an orgasm!

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  1. SoS Sharpie

    SoS Sharpie New Member

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    Hellos...well my gf is afraid of an orgasm lol.

    She says she has never had one. I pound her hard and long but right before she is about to cum, she gets scared and always some how gets away and stops the process for a second.

    She is very petite and i've tried every thing from ramming her like a jackhammer to railing her putting while putting fingers in her ass and rubbing her clit. Haven't tried tying her down yet. I just want her to experience it so she will understand how great it is and will be even more satisfied.
     
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    I don't think it's possible to force a woman to have an orgasm. Give her a vibrator, some space, and ask her to experiment by herself. The ladies on this board will have to confirm this, but I think it's usually easier to have your first orgasm through masturbation.
     
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    What the heck does "railing her putting while putting fingers in her ass" mean? I'm confused.

    OK, back to the issue at hand... What does she think is going to happen if she comes, that her head will explode or something? Dude, have her spend some quiet time alone with her index finger so she can have her first orgasm. Give her the phone in case she needs to call 9-1-1 and slowly back out of the room and shut the door.
     
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    Hahaha Joe, you are quicker on the trigger than I am. :lol
     
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    I'm thinking...a vibrator, some lube, and some time alone should take care of that.

    I'd guess half her problem is you putting pressure on her to do it. *Nothing against you trying to help her achieve one...I'm just saying she is obviously having some performance anxiety and you are probably not helping.
     
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    Jeezus...Have you tried approaching it from a woman-friendly angle? Be sweet, gentle, romantic...give her the pussy licking of her life. Devote some time to foreplay that makes her moan and writhe in ecstasy, then make love to her puss with your lips and tongue (don't automatically zero in on the clit--warm her up first). Make it a romantic experience and maybe she'll feel more relaxed, ergo more likely to let go.
     
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    Dude the way you talk about sex id be afraid of an orgasm to!! Try going down on her, being soft and gentle.
     
  8. SoS Sharpie

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    Meh, but she likes it rough lol. I've tried all of the above. She is quick to just jump to the cock, when I do alot of sensual foreplay she just says she wants me NOW, and I am teasing her.
     
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    Hmmm.... my childish, mindless opinion....but if everything to do with sex was as easy as some make it sound, we wouldn't need a forum such as this except to meet our needs for porn. Eh? To those new to the extravagence and amazement of complete and total bliss, and orgasm, especially as a female, can be quite intimidating and understandably intimidating. But hey, I'm just a woman who wasn't lucky enough to be born sexually liberated and genius. What do I know?!
     
  10. Bluesy

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    I can't even begin to fathom feeling intimidated by sexual pleasure...I grew up in a sexually repressed environment (sex was not something you talked about, period! It was dirty! :p), but my upbringing didn't prevent me from exploring my body sexually, or experiencing my first orgasm as a happy accident. It seemed so perfectly natural, even at a young age, and so it's impossible to wrap my mind around the notion of a woman fearing orgasm :ugh I guess it happens, eh?

    Btw, I don't know why you think your opinion would be perceived as "childish" or "mindless" ???
     
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    Well, if you've tried everything, then it's up to her to discover what tickles her kitty and inform you of the best way to go about it. It's her problem, not yours. Don't take her orgasmic ignorance personally, hon.
     
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    GOOD GRIEF!!:eek